Has any situation ever almost made you change who you are?

[Anonymous]

Take the question how you want, I'm sure there's many ways something can change somebody and it's good to catch yourself and retreat if you ever see that happening to yourself, unless that change is for the better of course.

[Vevv123]

Yes, I think so. I believe that you should strive to make things work in a relationship. I maintain optimism that there are many things that can be worked on. And this belief has definitely been reinforced in my experience. I like to be self-aware, so I enjoy self-improvement in all forms and I like to maintain a harmonious relationship. However, I've been in a relationship with someone who possessed significant flaws, and all I wanted to do was try to help them, maybe change myself in the process, and basically be as cooperative with them because I saw the good in them. Many times, their excuses were that they grew up in an abusive household or that they were really drunk and couldn’t control themselves. It’s very disappointing to realize that they won’t change, and if anything, the continuous enabling will actually allow them to do more harmful things. However, my perspective still stands: I believe there are many things that can still be worked on. On the contrary, one flaw I won’t be willing to endure again is physical abuse.

[Asker]

Sounds like there's a very bright mind inside that noggin Vurrito, sounds like your thinking is all in the right place, mostly when it comes to the physical abuse, that's actually something you should have never experienced, it's a situation that should have never happened, it's something you should have never had to evaluate and consider making adjustments in life about, I'm sorry you've had to be a victim to a cowards aggression and possessiveness.

[Vevv123]

Thank you, I try to be optimistic.😌 It is a tough situation to be in and sometimes you just want things to work out so badly. Thankfully I'm not in that situation anymore and it that has helped me understand that some people aren't able to be saved and that physical abuse is a non-negotiable.

[Asker]

People can't be saved if they don't want to be saved because at the end of the day the final decision is theirs, there's many people that will always put themselves first even when the best thing for them is on the line, these are people you can't help and when this is the position you are in, the only solution is to do the same, look out for yourself, don't let your efforts go to waste if you don't see different results from your efforts and physical abuse shouldn't even be in the picture at all, even when experiencing it the first time, they put hands on you or try too, the next time they try, they will be hitting the air cause you are gone 🤣

[Vevv123]

I know, but sometimes people will try to make you feel bad for them. Especially if they went through abuse. I can't help but feel bad. Maybe they need hugs. 🥺😅

[Asker]

Or they need therapy, there's only so much hugs can do and cure them from mental illness is not one of those things Vurrito 😂

[Vevv123]

You're right, I realize that now 😅

[Asker]

☺️💯🤌🏼

[IslaTheWitch]

not almost, it did change me...

made me more open to people close to me
made me a fighter for what I see as worth it
made me express myself, even if I sometimes do it poorly
taught me to not give up

and now you have to deal with me :D

[Asker]

Lol well I guess you changed for the better Isla, that is very good 😂👍🏼

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

It didn't "almost" change who I am but actually changed who I am. When I had my first daughter. I gave up everything I worked my entire life to accomplish. I do believe I'm in a better position now and did the right thing, for my now THREE daughters and wife but I definitely look back and miss the times I had...

[Sonorous]

Nahhh. I am all that I've ever been & will always be. I don't define myself in terms of specifics. I like to keep it open & broad. If a situation calls for an aspect of me that I've never encountered or considered, then it is still me. Just a part of me that hadn't had enough stimulus to come to the surface.

[Anonymous]

My Depression.

It has changed me entirely into some another person. So much so that I'm unable to recognise myself and sometimes get confused that who am I? The person 12 years back or the person I'm at present. I often question myself that is it possible for me to become again the person I was before my depression or that was someone else or just all those things I feel like I did then was only in my dreams or just illusion. Am I really that or it's my illusion? Or the present is my illusion? Am I unable to recognise myself at present and past was my reality?

I don't know.

[Asker]

Sounds like a complicated reality, have you gotten over it or are you still currently struggling with this?

[Opinion Owner]

My depression is over. But I'm struggling with making myself to stand again. I try try and fail again and again and that frustrate me. Now I have new goal new plan new positivity. But after depression I feel like I have forgotten how to walk again kind. And sometimes it does feel like it's impossible maybe I can never. Lot many things to deal with. But I don't know how to deal with them. And at this stage when i need true guidance I don't have anyone to guide me.

[Asker]

Well you take it one step at a time, you must remember that it won't happen all in one day, you must progress slowly, at some moments you might not progress at all, it's more of a timing thing, just make better decisions and let time do th rest

[Miah06]

Honestly college.

I went to college. I started hearing a lot of idealogies, about race, gender, sexuality and anti American beliefs.

I started not trusting white people. I started feeling like a victim. I began dying my hair, dressing weird. I began feeling hopeless full of anxiety. I felt myself straying from God as well.

I got home after graduating. I was away from the influences of college, and started realizing how wrong the teachings were. I started seeing things from a different aspect. I dress like myself again. I don't allow propaganda to dictate my life. I am no longer feeling oppressed, no longer full of anxiety.

[Asker]

That's good Miah, this is one of the many reasons why colleges suck, very interesting experience 🤔🤌🏼

[Miah06]

It wasn't all bad. And i am glad i experienced it. I just wish i knew what i know now

[Asker]

Why does it matter if you know it now lol

[MemeSupreme]

yep

walked into my step-dad's room one night and stood there for like 20 minutes just staring at him filled with a cold rage. was gonna shoot him and then myself.

sometimes wished i had done it but ofc i'm glad i didn't do it. ngl i don't know how to feel about it. woops now im so tired my left eye is closed in order to see. It's going black ahahahahahhahahah

[Asker]

Well momo, I'm glad you didn't do it either, you even proved you are a good firearm owner, it's good you didn't do it tho or else you'd be in prison and this place would've been momo-less 🙂

[MemeSupreme]

god why did i reveal that last night.. it's MAKING ME CRINGE but thanks

and i was legit passing out typing that end part like i was seeing black. been a while since that happened

[Asker]

It's okay momo, it's better to let it out than keep it inside, I assume compressing it all can cause more mental illnesses

[MemeSupreme]

that's not how that works but i get wym lol

[Jjmetalchick]

No almost for me. To be honest, being left in random peoples hoises at yhe age of 5 to 12 and being sexual toiched and molested over and over again because of my father made me feel like I was nothing more than a piece of ass to be tossed from grown man to grown women and back to them grown men.

[Asker]

Are you doing better now? Has it all stopped?

[Jjmetalchick]

Yeah i dont see my dad anymore. And last time i talked to him was in February.

[Lliam]

I don't know how someone could change who they are unless they went under cover or into hiding and changed their identity.

As for me, life is about evolving. I'm not the same as I was 10 years ago or even 10 days ago. I try to improve.

[Asker]

Fair enough

[Dongie]

I guess I've felt like that many times but always things returned to normal. Aside from the natural growth I have a thing or two that so traumatized and hurt me that it probably changed who I would have been if free from those events. So yep.

[Asker]

Yep trauma can change you indeed or help you see the world not so colorful and ends up changing how you see it

[Dongie]

Wise beyond your years.

[Asker]

Thanks lol

[Valdemort]

Not almost.