Is anger a sacred gift?

[Anonymous]

There are definitely different types of getting angry, some are good and some are bad.

I had to listen to this a second time:

[Datboi65]

Oh boy, this question speaks to me.

I used to have extreme anger problems when I was a kid/teenager. I never got in any trouble with the law and never really instigated anything, but was not the type to let something go. It could be something as small as a snarky remark and I would remember it until I get the chance to actually fight (I never started a fight) so I can beat the breaks out of them for everything they had said/done. I was the type to give someone the death stare if they looked at me in the wrong way or even stepped on my foot by mistake. Those days are definitely over.

What I find out is that it's very hard to just ignore the urge to get angry, and I still struggle with it sometimes. I try to breathe slowly and de-escalate if possible, or just ignore the person and remind myself that it's not really worth it. I avoid confrontations unless absolutely necessary, and when I do I try to speak as calmly as possible.

There's definitely been some growth on my part, but I'm only human and can snap sometimes. Last time that happened was 3 years ago. I believe all men need to learn how to control their emotions, especially anger because that's the most dangerous one.

[Asker]

I find it easy to control anger, not get stressed (maybe until it's not a day 5 into a prolonged fast...)

[Weapon77]

I wouldn't put it that way. But anger is 100% a useful evolutionary adaptation meant to make us take action when we otherwise would not. It can cause awful things, but if channeled by a good person, it can also cause great good and protect good people.

[Anonymous]

Emotions exist for a reason. But you can't let them control you.

[Iron_Man]

If you use it in the proper way

[Anonymous]

Anger is like a cancer.