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I’ve been hanging out with a guy since late December, we have not been on any dates but we do have different schedules. He works day/night shifts and I work from 8-5. Some nights when he gets off work he will come to my house and see me for a few hours. he isn’t just getting some and leaving he Will usually stay for at least 3/4 hours which I think is nice because I know he is tired from work. The other day he was over and my friends was over as well and he sat and talked to them for a good hour even though he didn’t have to and I know he was tired.. but what confuses me is what I’m about to say. after my friends left he made the comment that if my roommate moves out that me and him should live together that it would be nice and I agreed.. but then a little while later we was play fighting and he said that we was friends with benefits and told me to fist bump him? I believe he could tell it hurt my feelings bc I asked him if he was serious and just kinda sat there I didn’t cry but I really wanted too. then when he went to leave to go home I asked him if he was serious about it bc I told him I can not do friends with benefits that I mentally can’t do it that it mentally drives me insane and he just gave me a big long kiss and told me his going to let me figure it out!!! I don’t know if he is kidding or what any of this means and today he snapped me but opened mine and left me on read. I will sometimes do this to him and he mentioned it the other day, not sure is that is why he is doing it or not :( 😒 pls help

So a 32 year old friend I know who has a wife and child posted (on Instagram) a very cute family picture that I found absolutely adorable... what I didn't expect to find was all his friends in the comment section making fun of him for his "dad shorts" and "his shorts being way too short."

He himself seemed cool about it and didn't mind. He was just kind of like, "They're literally not that short though? But if I made you laugh, that's a good thing I guess, haha." His wife even came in from her account and started saying stuff like, "Noooo! His shorts are absolutely not too short! I literally helped him pick them out! They're the perfect length for men's shorts, whether you like it or not! Goodbye to long baggy cargo shorts! Haha."

Overall it seemed pretty lighthearted, and no one was truly offended, but... I was just kind of confused. Is this really the length of shorts people nowadays consider "dad shorts" or "short shorts for men?" That's literally just a few inches above the knee, like 3-5... I agree with what his wife said when she came to "defend" him, they're literally the perfect/ideal length for men's shorts and as inoffensive as it can get...

Back in the 1970s and some of the 80s they had real "dad shorts" or "short shorts for men." Shorts that barely covered their butt cheeks. A few inches above the knee is not nearly that short!

Back in the 1990s and earlier 2000s though they had some quite huge, baggy, long shorts... if you're used to these, then I guess my 32 year old friend's shorts could seem like "dad shorts" in comparison. They're still nowhere near the real dad shorts of the 70s though. They just simply aren't excessively long... which to some equals "dad shorts" or "short shorts" I guess.

He’s best described as Jekyll & Hyde. He will be overly loving and caring one day. Then the next visibly upset, won’t talk to me, and seems very irritated by my existence. Then sometimes a day or 2 later he is perfectly fine again. He will sometimes say that it’s life he is upset about, something small I have done (like leave a spoon to mix my coffee on the tray), or he is tired. It never seems to really make much sense. He is also constantly convinced I’m cheating or being secretive. His examples if you ask would be im spending more hours at the office, but the reality is I’m spending at least an hour less a day in the office because he was getting so upset. Now I leave early and finish at home. At this point it just feels like he wants to hate me or be upset with me. When I try to understand he says things that aren’t true. When I try to talk to my friends because I feel crazy they think he has serious issues and I’m his punching bag. I have quite a few examples of behavior that I can’t rationalize or understand. Like he will sit on his phone while I make dinner and clean up. As soon as I sit down to eat if I touch my phone he’ll make a comment how my attention is to everything but him. But when I try to give him my undivided attention he finds me annoying. Very confused girl over here.