I believe it’s probably her looking for attention but sometimes I wonder if she’s interested in me more than a friend. We’ve been friends off and on for a little over a year. She used to be the typical crappy pick me friend but has gotten better over time. Randomly tho she will send me selfies she’s taken off of snap. I don’t comment on them cause I think that it’s weird she sends them in the first place. I’ve had one girl best friend in my life and we would send pics of ourselves to eachother but they were pictures that nobody would ever see because it was usually weird faces no makeup etc. I don’t send pics back to her either. I’m sure she’s looking for attention or to be told nice comments but I don't know if she does to it others. We used to be roommates but she would be rude call me names that I was told in a joking manner but wasn’t a joke she’d remark on my weight so I cut her off. But since she’s apologized to me she’s been a lot better so I’ve continued the friendship. Sometimes when we drink and smoke she puts her hand on my thigh and says how happy she is to be hanging out. She used to stalk my social profiles and kept trying to communicate with me through mutuals to fix our friendship. She’s very comfortable around me compared to others, but doesn’t really consider me a best friend more like a friend but then will go back on that and says we are best friends so I’m just really confused. I’ve asked her once when we weren’t talking if she was in love with me cause the obsession was bizarre to me. She never answered me. Anyways any opinions or help with this is welcome. Thanks in advance!
This is pretty obviously a girl with romantic/sexual feelings for you. That's clearer than clear. At first I thought this sounded like possibly attention-seeking. Until I got to the "puts her hand on my thigh" part.
**INSERT RECORD SCRATCH**
From that point until the end, you make it SUPER DUPER clear that this girl obviously has feelings for you. Now, things cannot be any clearer than you confronting her for her bizarre behavior, that seemed to suggest she might be 'in love with you' so much that you LITERALLY ASK HER if "she's in love with you or something"...
AND SHE NEVER ANSWERED YOU!!!
This is not hard to read. This girl has feelings for you, but can also see that you seem to be weirded-out/not receptive to any advances she's attempted. I kinda feel badly for her to tell you the truth. She has strong feelings for you obviously, and you're oblivious to them. You end up rejecting her advances... but not clearly enough for her to give up trying.
I'm guessing the fact that you're pretty oblivious to this leads to her being confused. So when she puts her hand on your thigh and tells you how happy she is to be hanging out (would... you understand what that meant if a guy did it?)
You don't straight up reject her advance. You don't realize that it IS an advance. So you... awkwardly react to her advance... simply because you don't know what to make of the behavior.
Now, it sounds like this girl's feelings for you might be verging into the somewhat unhealthy/obsessive. I'm not saying that it's all innocent same-sex feelings that aren't problematic. But, she DEFINITELY has feelings for you. That's why she's acting the way she's acting. ALL of it... is because she likes you. It's for attention from YOU specifically. 🙂
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The whole thing is nonsensical to me. It’s all so very complicated.
I don't know it could be either way I think, I tried to read it assuming she is not flirting with you and it makes sense that way, then I tried to read it assuming she is flirting with you and it also makes sense that way. Sending pics is a bit weird but maybe she just wants compliments or feedback about how she looks, and touching your thigh is normal if you just mean normal touching nothing clearly sexual. Would you rather she was, or was not interested in dating you, I get the impression how you worded it that you do not want that but just asking to be sure.
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