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He is 27 and I’m 30. We work together in a small team and have worked together for just over two years now. I believe we have a flirty relationship. He is nice to everyone and always jokes/has a laugh with everyone, so it would be difficult to know whether he was into me. Examples of his flirting include:

- We have a lot of eye contact. Sometimes I will catch him staring at me or the eye contact will be very prolonged. Haven’t noticed the pupil dilation at all.

- He does silly things just to get my attention. He will grab my hair clip, press something on my keyboard or touch my chair.

- On a night out, someone thought he was my husband for some reason, and he said “I should be so lucky”

- Outside of work he is very “huggy” but won’t touch me at work

- He laughs at silly things I do and calls me “daftie” occasionally

- I was stressing about an upcoming event because I was having my hair and makeup done. He asked me why I was having someone else do it and I said “because I want to look beautiful”, to which he said “why don’t you just do it yourself”

- sometimes I will see him look at my boobs

- he sometimes gets a little jealous I think. When another man gave me a lift into work, he called me a “wimp” and when I asked for help on something, he said “why don’t you get “other guy” to help you”

I think a coworker was flirting with me. I caught him checking me out a few times and before Christmas he strikes up a conversation with me and tried to extend it during the entire shift. He also kept asking me questions about my plans for the night, weekend, my living situation and offered several times that day to drive me home since we live in the same neighborhood. I had a feeling he was flirting with me because he seemed genuinely curious and always agreed with everything I said as if he wanted me to approve of him.

About 4 weeks later he came into my office (wearing pretty much cologne) even though there were plenty of empty rooms available so I figured he might like me a bit. But that day he was very busy and very disinterested in the conversation as if he tried to make the point that I’m not his type. Later he disclosed that his girlfriend was about to move into his apartment.

Now my questions are:

did he actually flirt the first time or was he just trying to be nice to a new acquaintance?

And if he did, why would he try to suck up to me if he already has a relationship and then pull back and act super disinterested in me?

He acts stiff, sometimes cold towards me as if I was his tyrant boss. When I am alone with him on a confined space (elevator for instance) he pushes himself in a corner and keeps looking at the ground while mumbling.

Other times he just acts really cold, indifferent or slightly annoyed or pretends he doesn’t notice me. Did I do something to him? Or does he think I think he likes me and therefore tries to make a wide berth around me?

He is confident and sociable with everyone else so it has to do with me. He is also not shy to flirt with other female coworkers despite being married with kids so he is most likely not afraid of metoo