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I’m 24 moving to another state to live with my fiancé and his grand mother…not by choice but for family reasons. She’s expecting me to ask her how she feels about me moving there. Now don’t get me wrong. I respect my elders and I actually planned to speak with her. But the vibe I’m getting is that I owe her that…and at the end of the day I told my fiancé I didn’t want to live with family all my life. I’m literally moving from my family home so it’s like I’m leaving one controlling family household to another. I don’t want to explain what I do, where I go, or if what I do makes them feel some type of way when I’m a damn adult.

I just don’t like the fact that I’m not given the same common courtesy as well. The phone works both ways and nobody was ever invested in our relationship until he proposed. One I feel horrible enough that I’m a grown ass woman about to go live with someone else’s family. Just makes me regret not saving for my own place and following through with that. I knew he was going to look out for his grandmother I’d do the same but how do we fit us both working full time, attempting to manage kids if we have any and then him taking care of his grandma…. any good man would but where’s the breaking point

He literally bugged out on me and told me to leave him alone because he’s already stressed & annoyed and I’m putting the nail in the coffin…

What should I do?

I sing and hum more than I speak in real life. I sing during classes, hum during showers, hum along while playing piano, sometimes I will sing out of nowhere startling everyone inside the room, or even hum like a crazy person while munching on some snacks while taking a short break with each bite and then continue. So basically, I sing and him around the whole day, my vocal chords work as much as my heart. Sometimes my mom and sister caught me singing while sleeping too! I've been like this since I learnt controlling my voice as 1.5 yr old. It started from trying to imitate my mom's lullaby. That's what makes me a natural vocalist except the fact that puberty stole that well built voice.

My friends who are my benchmates and my sister, they're are so done with this habit of mine that they actually feel empty when I'm totally quite.