Was I right to be pissed off at my boss for letting me go today?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

So I signed up to work summer camp in April and I was very excited about it. We started two weeks ago and it was exhausting. I was working with the kindergarten kids. The staff has been talking to me frankly how I’m doing a poor job at taking charge of a classroom, letting students do what they wanted and giving in. The assistant (let’s call her Mrs Elle) that’s leading the classroom told be bluntly that a lot of teachers have been noticing that and they have been talking about it in the teacher meeting how I lack assertiveness and just having to be asked to get up and talk to the students. Mrs Elle said the principal was lucky to give me another chance for summer camp since I have already sign up for it and she would have fired me if she was her. She said if I can’t take charge of a classroom and be firm, they’re not going to want me to come back to work here and revolt my contract because they don’t want a teacher that can’t even do their job. The principal noticed it too and that keeps happening again, she would have to come talk to me.
So today was a horrible day and Mrs Elle was so upset with me for not controlling the students and one parent got angry then said her child came home with a poppy diaper and rash because one of us didn’t change him. Mrs Elle scold me off for not doing my job and I need to stop “trying” and just do it even if they don’t want to do so and that’s why kids don’t respect me because I’m too nice and soft to them. The principal bluntly told me that I don’t have what it takes to be a teacher, a parents had to call because he had a rash and that makes the school look bad. I don’t wanna to my job to be assertive and the biggest mistake was hiring me. She said she has to let me go. Today was my last day at my job. Great now I’m unemployed again. Can’t believe they just let me go. I need money and I’m already in college.

[GoingNooWhere]

It doesn't matter if you were on time and always showed up and it especially doesn't matter how bad you need a job. You signed up for a job that you did not do, and you allowed a kid to suffer by allowing the kid to wear a poopy nappy that ultimately gave them a rash. Seriously this kind of work is not for you as you can't even take care of the kids in your care.

Who cares if the child says no, you are the adult, the teacher and you allowed a child to walk all over you. As a mother myself, I would not want you looking after my baby.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I did not allowed the child to walk all over me. I told him to let’s go but he kicked me and said no and ran off. Nobody helped me.
I apologized to everyone but they didn’t accepted it and I apologized to the mother and father but they don’t care and they said the wanted someone else to do the changing for their son since I’m was a bad teacher. Wow…. I didn’t mean for all this to happen but people aren’t so nice over there.

[GoingNooWhere]

All I am hearing is you making excuses and not realising what exactly you have done wrong.

They have no obligation to accept your apology. You let the child suffer and be in pain. Do you even know how painful it is for a child to have a nappy rash or even how uncomfortable it would have been for them to sit in their own poop?
I wouldn't accept your apology either. You clearly aren't cut out for this kind of work.

I don't know if you have Austim or not, but what you did was not okay and I truly hope you do see, teaching or even caring for kids is just not the kind of job for you.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Im not making excuses!! I did realize what I’ve done and I felt bad. I can’t everyone is against me. I apologized and nobody was nice about it.
The boss got in my face and was very blunt to me and didn’t care if I have autism, I’m an adult like everyone else. She told me off and a parents was planning to spread the word to the poor performance of the school. I anxiously told them I am very sorry and don’t yell at me. I have autism and all the yelling makes me anxious but they didn’t care. The assistant principal said I need to stop passing up the duties and just do it! I sighed up for it, just do it. She said it sounds rude but it is what it is and sometimes it’s the only way to get the point across. Man bosses are so freaking blunt and rude.
My grandparents are very pisses off at me and though I was an irresponsible, lazy untrustworthy coworker and it make sense for my older siblings to not have me babysit my niece and nephews and it’s so pathetic and pitiful. 😭

[GoingNooWhere]

For your boss to have done what they done. Sounds like this wasn't the first time you have messed up. You have to understand not everyone is nice. I myself can be a bitch and snap at people.

If the yelling makes you anxious, this is a sign for you that this kind of work is not for you. Being a teacher or even caring for kids you will experience yelling, you will also experience kids having tantrums. I strongly advise you to sit down and think and consider a possible a career change because I really don't feel this is the right job for you. I'm sorry. Trust me there is a different career out there that will be better suited for you and chances are you could even end up living it.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I can’t change my major! I have to do this. I wanna prove to them that I can change! Even my older sister told me something similar since she’s also a teacher. She’s a sped Ed teacher and she got real blunt with me about my lacking of work ethic and it’s so said them at she can’t trust me enough to babysit her kids and the kids love me. She told me if I can’t handle all this and if I’m going to be careless then I shouldn’t be a teacher.

[GoingNooWhere]

I don't blame your sister for not trusting you to babysit her kids. I wouldn't allow you either regardless if my child loved you or not, as I would be terrified of you not coping.

I know you want to prove you can do this, but listen to me. Listen to your sister who knows what she is talking about. This really isn't the job for you.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

It’s expensive to change majors but my sister said it isn’t. Even my older half brother doesn’t trust me to babysit my other nephews and niece. What do my siblings know? y sister is 36 and my brother is 40.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

If it has to cause money to change my major, I’m quitting college.

[MizzArtFreak89]

Oh geez. You let a student go home with a dirty diaper that causes a rash and you’re upset that you got fired? A parent got upset about that and I don’t blame them. Also you didn’t take charge of the classroom and refuse to do it. You aren’t allowed to get angry because you lack doing your job and it looks like you frankly suck at it. I don’t mean to sound blunt, but you do.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

But I was on time! I always came to work bye 8am or even 10 before 8. I really needed the job and they had to fire me! I WAS ALWAYS ON TIME!

[Sasha0426]

@AusticLonelyWoman Is that all you have to say? You don’t even feel the slightest remorse of what you done to that poor child? Maybe you should change your majors. Quit this one and find something else.

[Sasha0426]

@AutisticLonelyWoman

[MizzArtFreak89]

@AutisticLoneyWoman it doesn’t even matter. It doesn’t change that fact that you did a poor job. Don’t you even care about the poor kid that had a rash? Huh? Did you ever think about the children and their safety? You clearly don’t. You shouldn’t be a teacher at all. I agree with @Sasha0426 you should just change majors because you clearly aren’t right for the teaching job. They did a big favor for the children especially that poor little boy.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

@Sasha0426 I do care and I did apologize to the parents but she didn’t accept it and told me I am a bad teacher and I suck at it. Wow that really hurts. I apologized to everyone but they didn’t take it well and ignored it. They’re not very nice.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

But I do care and I apologized to the mom but she didn’t wanna hear it and called me a horrible teacher and her poor baby was crying because of his rash. I felt so horrible. I also apologized to everyone but they didn’t take it kindly. They’re not nice at all. They seemed sweet but when it’s work time, they’re not nice and bossy.

[NalleBabyBoysss]

Try sitting in a dirty diaper until you get a rash and than you might have some sympathy. I don't think your to nice as you said "kids don’t respect me because I’m too nice and soft to them" I don't think your very smart (i don't say that to be mean but if you think all it takes to care for children is to come to work when your suppouse to than you should look for another profession)

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

@NalleBabyBoysss I apologized to everyone but they didn’t accepted it and I apologized to the mother and father but they don’t care and they said the wanted someone else to do the changing for their son since I’m was a bad teacher. Wow…. I didn’t mean for all this to happen but people aren’t so nice over there.

[lightbulb27]

some are not cut out for that job. have to be assertive and strong with kids to gain respect or it's a mess and hazard for the school. you can be mad, but better to be motivated to do something else. walk dogs... cat sit, house sit?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I wish the principal hadn’t been so blunt. Most of the staff aren’t a so nice. Even some coworkers had to “light a fire under me to get it going”.

[lightbulb27]

It sucks being fired, I was fired more than once and I was mostly exceptional person. First time, I got lazy and he didn't need me. 2nd time... I was assassinated after years of dedicated service. You gotta take the lessons and value from it, grow, and move on.
You may have some exceptional skills yet to be discovered and developed, as you are young. So open your heart and mind, and work on yourself. Rise to the challenge. Bosses expect great work.
You need to spend time working on your skills, energy, work ethic, passion, inner strength and confidence... so you can deal with people better. That is emotional work, sub conscious development, healing inner child wounds. God can help, prayer, meditation, learning about yourself, healing inner traumas.
Get busy!!!

[lightbulb27]

Your new life awaits you as you climb the mountain of life! Welcome to life...

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I hate the adult world

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Thank you

[lightbulb27]

Being a child is wonderful, no worries, everything is play and fun. Maybe you can find a way to live as a child all the time.
Life is hard at times because you have to learn and change, but that's good too as life can get boring and you need challenges. Stress... challenges your assumptions and brings change, if you face it with courage.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I know

[Keene13]

I'm sorry. It's definitely a very demanding job and not easy.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

It isn’t

[Sasha0426]

Well, if you refuse to do your job correctly and you rather leave children in poopy diapers where they get rashes, they had every right to let you go. So…. no you have no right to be angry. I mean, what did you expect?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I tried to get the kid to come on but he wouldn’t listen to be and screamed no and pushed me. He ran of and I ran after him. Nobody helped me. I apologized but the staff said sorry doesn’t cut it and they hated to be the grinch and they fired me. I was always on time! I worked at that job since January. I was working with the older kids until late April and got moved with the little kids for the rest of the school year. I was ALWAYS ON TIME! My grandparents are kissed off fight now and I’m a total waist and I have a pitiful excuse to not to my job to let the kids take control. Man grandparents are brutal.

[Sasha0426]

Even if you were on time, your work performance wasn’t great. Teaching is definitely not for you.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

But I’m going to college for early childhood education and I got told to change my major because the kids would have an awful teacher that lets them do whatever and not calling them out. Wow so mean

[Sasha0426]

Please tell me you’re fucking trolling. You can’t honestly believe you’re good at teaching when you proved yourself you’re not. I mean, for fuck sakes you don’t even care that you left a child in a dirty diaper and they ended up with a rash. You don’t even care that the parents got mad. I can’t blame your boss for firing you because you didn’t do anything to improve yourself. And don’t say, “Oh, I was always on time.” At this point, that doesn’t matter. It was your work performance that was poor.

[Sasha0426]

I don’t blame your grandparents for being pissed at you. They have every right to be. I mean, you put your employees through hell and you’re playing the victim.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I didn’t put them in hell! I do care and I apologized to everybody but they didn’t take it kindly and ignored my apology. They’re not very nice at all. They care but they’re not nice.

[richardcory]

Are you thinking of a career in teaching? If not, then maybe its not a good fit for you.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I’m going to college for early childhood education. Sometime told me I should change majors.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Don't change your major, just take a seminar on assertiveness and boundaries.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@AutisticLonelyWoman

[richardcory]

OK. so then you need to think seriously about what happened. Do you think you are able to do this in the future?

Sometimes you learn things early on that are really important. Very early on I wanted to be a mathematician. Then I took my first serious math class - and discovered I was terrible at it. (and hated it). Changed careers and later felt very glad I had learned so early on.

OTOH maybe this is a good career for you. Its worth some serious thought on your part

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

@ImalwaysrightOK thank you

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@AutisticLonelyWoman ☺

[ProbablyClueless]

You didn't do the job they hired you to do. I'm not sure what you were expecting to happen.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I want them to give me another chance but they said he’ll no and got real blunt with me.

[Shamalien]

Sounds like you had ample warning and just weren’t good at the job sorry

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Wow…that’s all you got to say? People in the world force is so blunt.

[Shamalien]

Welcome to the real world kiddo

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

That’s what my older half sister told me and she told me the real world doesn’t give a shit about my feelings being hurt. She’s 36. What does she know?

[GoingNooWhere]

@AutisticLonelyWoman your sister being 36 knows more then you do. She is right, the real world doesn't give a shit and so many people don't give a f about your feelings.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I'm sorry 😭

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Thank you so much. Everyone was so mean