Do I have the right to be upset?

[Anonymous]

I've been unhappy with my current job. I ended up coming across another job while I wasn't actually searching for a new job. I ended up applying & got an interview. I did the interview on Thursday. I was off work Friday, I ended up getting a call back on Friday from the recruiter for the other job and they offered me a position and I took it. Right after, I messaged my boss asking if she'd be at work the next day because I had something to talk to her about, but I didn't want to talk to her about it over text. She said she'd be there so I ended up posting a brief post about getting a new job on Facebook. A guy I work with, his wife and I are friends on Facebook. I tried to block her from the post just in case, but I guess it didn't go through. I found out she sent a screenshot of my post saying I got a new job to one of my managers & they were pissed at me. It wasn't my actual boss she sent it to, but it irritated me. I just felt like it was not her place to make my manager aware that I was leaving. I am aware it's my kind of my fault because I made the post about getting a new job, but what do you think? Do you think I have the right to be upset? In addition, that particular manager said what I did was disrespectful & got onto me for the whole situation.

[WaterIsland]

In an ideal world, you could have handled that differently. But everyone makes mistakes. It honestly sounds like you were excited about the new job and didn’t think through the entire situation. Next time, you know not to do that, and to be more careful. So don’t dwell on the past. Learn from it, and move on.


The thing is when leaving a job, there is almost always a certain amount of awkwardness. The company is losing an employee and it creates more work for them. Which isn’t fun for them. It also represents uncontrollable change, which a lot of people dislike. So it’s always a bit awkward.


All you can do now, is work hard until your last day. And then refocus for your new job. Being upset or anything isn’t to your benefit here. They made their choices, and so did you. It’s over. Just focus on the future.


Good luck at the new job!!

[SnowedIn]

No. You do not have any right to be upset. You posted something on a platform that a billion people have and expect no one to say anything? That's absurd.

The manager who said you were disrespectful was exactly right. You were rude. You told the world before your manager. What's even more egregious is that you told your manager you couldn't tell them over text but did exactly that by posting on Facebook.

You handled this badly and in a childish, unprofessional manner.

[LazerBean]

Once you post a message on a public page, you lose the right to be upset that the information in question gets treated as the public information that it is.

[slatyb]

Fuck them all. If they really wanted you to stay they would have paid more.

[In_Trance]

Sure, be upset. it's going to turn out the same no matter what