Although Breaking Up on Your own End with an Ex, Should YOU have a Right to Be upset Over Something Like This That Happened?

[Paris13]

**I Broke IT OFF Back in 2022 with My LDR Four Year Partner. We have Corresponded for the Past Year, But Times, It can be Volatile and so Forth. But there is still Love There. He sent Me a Pix of the New Speakers on the Entertainment Center He Had Built (I Have Seen this in the past) and Yes, He still Has All of Cards and Pix and Knick Knacks I Gave to Him. However, I Suddenly SAW a Pix (Like from a Copy He had made) Of the Girl He THOUGHT was Real on FB, Who Had sent Him a Pix of Herself. I Always Though this was a Scammer But He never Believed me. She went OFF OF His FB Friend List when She realized (He or She) That I was Back on with Him and on Scammers Groups I Belong To. I am a Bit Upset in Seeing this Pix. Do I Have a Right to Be Mad and Call him Down on it? He tried to "Gaslight" Me at First... Any Thoughts? xx

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He Resent The Shelf Pix and Zoomed In On That Pix. It was His Niece. lol But Still, What Was I TO THINK? xxoo

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UPDATE: The One Pix was Of his Niece and Nephew and The One I thought was someone Else, WAS A PLAQUE. The Scammer Never Sent a Pix. xx

[YesterdaysChild]

I don't understand why people get into these types of relationships. You would probably see a person more often if they were in prison. I can't see many of them being successful in the end. There are just too many factors out of your control. I sometimes wonder if half of them are already in relationships and just looking for some side action. How would you possibly know? "Hey babe, want to go to a movie tonight?" - "Sure, tell me what video you will be watching and I'll watch it with you. Also tell me what time because we have a 4 hour time difference."

[Paris13]

We Had a Four Year Relationship LDR But I Broke It Off... My own Reasons. Not Related to Us Just That I Still Want Him in My Life But not as Some Wife... xx

[love_conquers_lust]

I had a bank teller make it work with her now husband from Chicago and she St. Louis. I made out with a woman in my truck a couple years ago who was on the other side of the state. It can be done, but not for a prolonged period. Someone has to pick up and go to the other if you want intimacy.

[Paris13]

@love_conquers_lust lol I Se This Not Happening Here. I am Going to Visit Him One day. Tried a Few Years back But Coivid Shut us down... xxoo

[Paris13]

Thank You for Helping. xxoo

[Altheavas]

I don’t know why you would be upset, you guys gotta move on too! However, he seems to be pulling your strings.

[Paris13]

I did Break it Off But there is Love Still There and I Think He Thinks I am Coming back. This Pix deal happened when We were Not Really even Speaking Much. He Still Has ALL of My Things and Pix on The Shelf But I SAW Her Up there. I believe That One was a Scammer. She Deleted HIM OFF FB when I came back. I SAW through Her-Him. lolxx

[AviatorTom]

You always have a right to be upset, even if later you realize there was no reason to be upset.

I kind of got lost in your post, but if I get it, the picture of the person you thought it was, that you got upset about, was actually his niece?

This is one of the problems with LDRs. Maybe it's time to find someone local?

[Paris13]

Have Had millions of Local All Over The Place, LDR was Nice For Us. No, The Pix was FLOWERS. NO GIRL. MY BAD. xx

[Paris13]

He jut tSent More Closeups of AAAAALLLL My Things and There is My Baby Pix and ALL. xx

[OddBeMe]

Seems like he’s stringing you along, backburning, side pimping…. etc.

[Paris13]

He Puts with My Venting and Actions But I do Agree... He is Extra Nice in Some Particular Times. Stringing Me Along? Maybe ON That Part... xx

[Paris13]

Valentimes Day is Coming Up. xx

[OddBeMe]

Players know how to play

[Paris13]

***N xx

[Paris13]

He is a Gamer, Granted. lolxx

[Truthatanycost]

'We have Corresponded for the Past Year...'

Until people learn how to make a completely clean break, they will continue bringing all kinds of problems into their life. One day you will be shown all of the opportunities, life changing experiences and peace that you missed just by continuing something that should have been ended in all ways.

[Paris13]

I Guess We Are Trying to Stay Friends and Somewhat Friendly. lolxx

[Truthatanycost]

Yes. A very common mistake often borne from sunk cost fallacy.

[Iron_Man]

This is confusing to me anyway you guys need to go to Denny’s and enjoy some sweet French toast that will fix your problems. Then you can feel comfortable about talking it out over there. With a lovely order of sweet French toast from your favorite restaurant in the world Dennys

[Paris13]

@Iron_Man I Have Only 4 More Pounds to GO THOUGH? lolxx

[Iron_Man]

OK, but you can have Dennys still you don’t need three meals a day two is quite enough

[Gent207-2]

Pulling the trigger on a relationship hurts just the same as the one who relieves the breakup.

Unless of course it's mutual.

[Paris13]

I Find it Uncalled For. This FB Person Was a Scammer, What idiot Does This and Cannot See? xx

[Gent207-2]

K honestly didn't read the rest of your post

[Gent207-2]

I honestly*

[Paris13]

Okay, Read IT When You Can. xx

[MysteriousDarkness]

You broke it off back in 2022 so why are you still upset over him? You need to tey and move on from him but won't as long as you two keep in contact. You need to learn to block him and not respond to him. You said at times it can get volatile which means it is toxic. Try not to worry about the knick knacks and others things that you gave him and try to move on. From the day of you posting this it has been 1 year 6 days to 2 years 5 days depending on when you broke it off in 2022. You are best to move on without him.

[Joshydavid25]

Oof Paris, seems like it's best to just call it a day here.. Or just get back together and move with one another..

[Paris13]

Yikes, JD. lol!!! xx

[Joshydavid25]

Yikes Indeed Paris..

[LadyKitty]

1st mistake was getting into a ldr for 4 years. Time to move on with your life and he his.

[Paris13]

lol We Met on Here. It was a Nice Experience and Still Stay Friends. Covid Hit and I Had to Cancel My Trip. xx

[LadyKitty]

A LDR is pointless if there is no plan to meet or live together. Best off finding someone near you and If he is salty while trying to stay friends then its time to go out and enjoy life without him.

[Likes2drive]

I guess you’re still friends so that’s why you are upset and you have had to deal with scammers like me too so you are suspicious of everything these days

[Paris13]

LOn gAtory, Big Guy... She Never Sent any Pix, He tried to Just Say So.. He is an Idiot. lolxx

[Anonymous]

If don't think so. Could be worse, I contacted my ex two months after we broke up and found out that I had gotten her pregnant and she had a miscarriage. I was really sad about that for a while.

[Paris13]

Wow!!! Not This with Us. I am So Sorry. xx

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks

[msc545]

You always have a right to be upset whether it's objectively justified or not.

[Paris13]

He says It was His Niece. Could Be as It was Bit "Blurry." She has Long Hair Too. xx

[nawtee_me]

You know four years is a lot of memories, both good and bad. It is harder to forget the bad one than the good ones. Maybe that is why breakups are so difficult. The one breaking up remembers the bad times and the one being broken up with remembers the good times….

[sawno]

If you aren't together anymore you have no right to be upset over what he did afterwards.

[exitseven]

Paris, you need to move on from this.

[Paris13]

@exitseven I Agree Sometimes But Leave IT IN God's Hands. xx

[Jamie05rhs]

Why do you belong to scammer groups?

[Paris13]

To Help Others Who have Been Scammed. For 14 Years on FB.. Top Contributor On One of Them. Makes Sense? xx

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh; okay.

[Brianp]

Move on to someone else

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag and Best of Luck. xx

[FunkyMonkee]

Absolutely!!

[Paris13]

I Know. I do Not Think He Thought I Could See ALL of This UP CLOSE. Now I am MIFFED. xx