Wow. This sounds exactly like what just happened to me. Literally, not even 5 days ago, it was this last Monday evening. I say end it before she can hurt you. My girlfriend told me she no longer had feelings for me the day I thought we would be finally setting up a nice weekend get away. The first day after that sucked and I was sad, upset, trying to figure out what to do. By the end of the second day, I called her back, talked out everything with her, and then was fine. I realized that I hadn't ever really been a priority for her. Mine seemed serious all the way until this surprise break-up. The last time I saw her I actually spent the night with her after going to her sister's birthday party with her. It sucks, but aside from what sounds like empty excuses, we have the same story. The amount of work that people like us put in that gets no requital until a breaking point like this is unfair and will ultimately make you depressed and question what is really going on with her. Sorry man, I literally know what you are going through and it sucks.
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Her barely seeing you does suck. Are you two so far away that you can't spend nights together? If not, can one of you relocate (move closer at least) so that you can spend nights together?
I know that this trip thing really sucks, but this isn't on her. This is on her boss. You simply don't tell your boss "sorry I'm not working" when he/she tells you to work if you want to keep your job. Hopefully her boss has a good reason, but even if he doesn't it's still OK to be pissed at him/her for this.
When you find yourself in a relationship where you are giving more than the other person, the relationship is no longer worthwhile for you. I use the analogy of giving $5s but only getting $1s in return. When this imbalance becomes the norm then you are being used.
Yes, she may say a lot of nice, sweet things when you're together, or when you talk on the phone, but words are empty if the actions aren't there to support them. They can talk the talk, but they don't walk the walk.
You have invested way more into this relationship than she has. Question is, how long are you willing to do this? She's not going to change her ways. The only person you can change is yourself.
I am not going to read all of that but women will treat you the way you let them same like women get treated how they let men do them. Flip that shxt and be a guy and act like you not tripping off her. She will panic.
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I would say it's time to move on. With the both of you being extremely busy, and her not willing to put you first at any point is a sign that this relationship isn't going anywhere. I get that it will be difficult because you do have feelings for her, but it is not worth all the BS. Not showing up for a trip that had been planned for a month is unforgivable. She chose work over you, and will continue to do that as long as the two of you are together.
maybe she's cheating on you either way dump her ASAP and get another girl that wants you
Maybe she's one lesbian.
She needs you there, of course. hehe...
Good luck, guy.
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