Search Results: what guys think about when they stare

So there’s this guy that I’m friends with, and we have been friends for sometime. I used to have a crush on him and I admitted to him that I was attracted to him. He said he didn’t feel the same way and I didn’t feel a ways about it so we just moved on. It took me a minute but I finally got over my attraction.

However, this man makes sexual jokes about us engaging in sexual acts, saying he thinks of me when he uses his sex toys, touches my leg, likes to make fun and a lot more. He flirts with me a lot. I catch him staring at me sometimes too, and when I look up sometimes he’ll look away, sometimes he’ll maintain eye contact. More than what a guy friend would do.

However, anytime I jokingly say he likes me he gets unnecessarily defensive about it. Also, he tends to play some songs (love songs or affectionate songs) when I’m around, he tends to do that when he can’t express himself. And he gets jealous when I talk to other guys (romantically or not). Even if it’s for a short spell, he stares at the man. Or if I talk about having another guy friend he gets fairly defensive about that too. But, he talks to girls a lot and has female friends too.

And the one thing I’ve noticed when interacting with his female friends is that they tend to act weird around me. As if they have some type of animosity towards me, but I don’t hang out with them enough for them to even have animosity so I have no idea. I suspect that he may talk about me to them a lot and they don’t like that, and some of them may even like him but he tends to give me a lot of attention. So I’m trying to figure out, is it possible that he likes me?

Everybody keeps telling me that I should forgive about my crush and that his stares don't mean anything because "if he was into you he would approach you". Do you think it is true? Because no guy has ever appraoched me and I myself would never approach a guy I was attracted to because of my own insecurities even if I was dying to talk to them for years.

Honestly, you REALLY don't need to read any of this besides just the title and poll options. The rest is just to provide some context and background to why I'm asking this, but not necessary to read if you don't want to, as I realize it's quite long.

This is sort of a ridiculous situation, and I can't believe I even "have" to make this post in the first place, but basically my boyfriend has bought some shorter shorts recently... think like 5 inch inseams to 7 inch inseams. Basically shorts that would end a couple of inches above the knees and show some thigh.

When standing they cover a little more than the middle of his thigh. So like 3 to 5 inches above the knee I guess? Basically showing his lower thighs. He likes it and feels comfortable this way.

But anyway, they ride up "a lot" when he sits down and they end up being in the upper thigh range instead of lower thigh range. Pictured above is his thigh in one of the pairs of shorts.

He's apparently really insecure and paranoid about this, and thinks "everybody is staring at his thighs." I tried to reassure him that nobody is looking at him, that the shorts look great, that it's perfectly normal for shorts to ride up like that when seated, etc. But he still didn't fully trust me.

He doesn't have an account on here, so he wanted me to ask online and see what people generally think, so... here I am. He's gonna be seeing the poll results and the comments. This seems like a waste of time to be honest, but I'm doing it for him. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️