Search Results: date preference

On the poll, vote which you’d prefer to date then below explain if you are what you prefer. I think I’m the oddball out here but I kinda find it hot when someone knows what they want and is set in their ways/routine. I like to learn a lot about a person before dating them so that I know what to prepare for. But if they’re constantly changing who they are, how they act, and what they do, it confuses me. I like occasional spontaneity but not daily/weekly/monthly. I hate a predictable movie but I like a somewhat predictable lifestyle. Not exactly predictable but just knowing what to expect. If something changes our plans through a natural way of life then thats understandable. But i dont want a person who says or does one thing then totally switches up what they claimed they’d do. That is very scary to me. But if i know most of what to expect from the guy then I can decide early on if I even want to date/stick with him or not. May sound nuts but thats my preference. And if a person hates that preference, then they shouldn’t date me because I’m practically trying to date something similar to myself 😂

#FeelFreeToList #RoutineRocks lol

Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.