Which is closest to yourself and which would you want to date?

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On the poll, vote which you’d prefer to date then below explain if you are what you prefer. I think I’m the oddball out here but I kinda find it hot when someone knows what they want and is set in their ways/routine. I like to learn a lot about a person before dating them so that I know what to prepare for. But if they’re constantly changing who they are, how they act, and what they do, it confuses me. I like occasional spontaneity but not daily/weekly/monthly. I hate a predictable movie but I like a somewhat predictable lifestyle. Not exactly predictable but just knowing what to expect. If something changes our plans through a natural way of life then thats understandable. But i dont want a person who says or does one thing then totally switches up what they claimed they’d do. That is very scary to me. But if i know most of what to expect from the guy then I can decide early on if I even want to date/stick with him or not. May sound nuts but thats my preference. And if a person hates that preference, then they shouldn’t date me because I’m practically trying to date something similar to myself 😂

#FeelFreeToList #RoutineRocks lol

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I went with A, right away... someone that knows what their want and will be genuine with themselves first, and then with me too

and I also like their willingness to adjust, not necessarily CHANGE themselves but to adjust a bit, to your partner, to me, that is vital for healthier and better relationships

and yes, I am very much like that myself, and I would prefer my partner was similar as well

and I do get what you're saying about being consistent... what you say, what you think and what you do should be always consistent, at least on a basis or the core of you, that's a bit part of comfort, and trust, and commitment and so many other good things that are positive for relationships... and if you're switching and changing your ways (worse if it is back and forth) then you are not making much sense lmao...

and it doesn't mean that you have to give up on spontaneity, you can still have some of that and also some variety but, it should be one that makes sense

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Someone who is stuck in their ways and will adapt their environment to them with creative thinking.

This is applicable to habits, hobbies, interests, and non conformity, it is not however applicable to learning.

A person who refuses to acknowledge verifiable information or logic, is disgusting to me. But a person who sticks to what they like for fun and prefer for safety, regardless of others opinions, and finds creative ways to do so, is attractive (and relatable).

letuswaltzforthedead · Accepted Answer

I picked B for myself. I know what I want and, in a sense, who I am. I'm not a fan to there being too many changes, if someone disrupts my routine or the way I set things to be, that upsets me a lot usually. B or D would probably be ideal of me, I don't really want someone who is unreliable or constantly shifting, maybe unless they're overly agreeable and trying to fit in or something.

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

I'm good at adapting... I know what I want but do not always stick to routine.  I want someone like that.

MCheetah · Answer

I am someone who knows what they want and unwilling to change it because want I want is reasonable and realistic. (B)

I'd want to date someone who is unsure of what they want but will stick to a certain routine once they realize what they want. (D) Or possibly (A) or (B) as well.

JDavid25 · Answer

I'm A.. I know ow what I want, but is willing to change and adapt because once I'm in a relationship it's more than just about me.. I'm here for the other person.. I'll treat them as I would want to be treated.. Some things about me will never change.. Like going to the gym and trying to live a fairly healthy lifestyle..

Th3ft · Answer

I mean I think most of us like it when people around us know what they want but who can adapt to change. Even when we are unsure ourselves it is nice to be around people who are trying to make things work. A certain way. Personally I like to be more of routine but love to throw random kinks in the chain. Like a random late movie night or a random road trip. But as long as I know where I am headed that is where I go.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Obviously A. I mean I am a creature of habit and don't like a lot of change I'll admit. But life is ABOUT CHANGE! it's inevitable. And it's going to change whether you like it or not. So the person who can meet that with with a joke, a smile, and a calm demeanor is ALWAYS going to be preferrable.

RobT312 · Answer

I’m a B and I date a B. We are compatible. I think I used to be an A, I was much more flexible…. now I’m just old and cranky and set in my ways

RavVid · Answer

I'd like some spontaneity but to have a routine I can rely on. Pretty much the same as me in this respect. do something different for fun of doing something different.

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I like a girl who is predictable and has a routine kinda the same the way I am but if something needs to change as long it's not drastic I am okay with it.

Anpu23 · Answer

I am very focused, know exactly what I want but can change and pivot if necessary.

DavidRaul · Answer

I definitely prefer A and definitely am what A states

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I know exactly what I want and willing to compromise to allow someone significant in my life.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Someone with a similar routine to mine or has a routine that works with mine.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I voted A. None of my past relationships were like that. That’s the kind of girl I want.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I think I'm mostly like D and would probably like to date a B.

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm told I'm set in my ways, but I see myself open to change if someone can convince of a better way. I'm right until I say you are!😂

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This question is way too vague. There are some things that I am strict on and there are many other things that I am adaptable on.

Cubus · Answer

What I'm closest to - D Which would I want to date - A

Harbringer26 · Answer

A, but it depends on what kind of change it is. Some changes are simply a no.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I vote A. Life is always changing and we need to adapt sometimes

Hulk30 · Answer

because in order for sexual relationships to work ya gotta adapt to each other and personally in order for it to be as best it can be

TheAfrikan · Answer

The first person seems to be indeed understanding n ma type.

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