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Love. Not platonic I-wanna-be-your-forever-friend but that romantic, sexual, I-want-you-in-my-life-forever-and-in-my-bed-every-night love. That love that you happily and eagerly allow to consume your life.

If there was only ONE soulmate in the world for you, then most people would never fall in love (because they would never find their one soulmate) and no one would ever fall in love more than once. Over the course of fifty years, I have been in love seven times and my longest relationship lasted 19 years. That number surprises me but I did not quickly fall in love with any of them; the briefest of those relationships lasted at least a year.

How many times have you been in love? If you are not in love now, are you open to falling in love with someone in the future?

I’ve been with my girlfriend Linda for 2 years. I really love Linda but I’m not sure if she’s faithful. I’m uncomfortable with all her male friends, I’ve lost sleep over it. She brags that they want her and she refuses to cut them out of her life. She has this guy friend named Roscoe. They’re relationship is a bit sketchy. Linda has travelled to Miami with Roscoe in the past. I looked at Roscoes Instagram and didn’t like the comments I saw Linda post on his page 4 years ago. The comments said “I miss you😍”. Roscoe is another guy friend who wants her.

I don’t wanna break up with Linda but I don’t like being played either. 3 weeks ago she mentioned again how Roscoe wants her and protected her in Miami. I got so mad that I opened up an online dating profile, and started talking to a woman named Tracy in Toronto. I did this out of spite.

I honestly thought Tracy was gonna turn ghost like most women online. But then things got out of control and me & Tracy really started to connect. I face time Tracy everyday for an hour. I think I’m really starting to like Tracy and she’s falling in love with me. She’s willing to drive 8 hours to my city. I really enjoy her virtual company.

But now I’m starting to feel guilty because it’s not confirmed my girlfriend is cheating. What should I do?

A couple of days back when this cute co-worker of mine and I went to the store together, she called me love and started asking if I had any special needs (she clarified that the reason why she asked me the question was because we had a conversation slightly beforehand about her baby's tracheostomy issue; I answered her with the truth (as any real friend should), but while I didn't directly say I was autistic, I told her I was diagnosed with the disorder at age 3.

I've called her pet names like goddess, beautiful, babe, etc. But I didn't jump into the extremes. While she has continuously called me "love", I have refrained from calling her something more lusty, such as "sexy" or "shawty". She's certainly not single; she mentioned something about a husband of hers while in the car and called someone daddy. A day later, I found her falling in love with a fellow male co-worker (who is ALSO married with kids). They both are married (not to each other) with at least one kid of each of their own.

Personally, that pissed me off. But I acted okay with it, I didn't go snitching around like a bitch. She's in her high 20s, the dude is in his 30s, I'm only in my low 20s. I saw the dude and her behind closed doors in the main office; I didn't know WTF they were doing, but it seemed kinda sus to me. She called him handsome the day later and was flirtacious, sarcastic, etc etc. She was rarely like that to me. RARELY.

She said today that "we're gonna need to talk" (while we were at the lunch table with the same co-worker) and when he left, she asked me about work boundaries. She, in an indirect manner, told me that I must call her by her real name, and not babe or sweethart or whatever. But what's the point of that advice when she literally called me love? She even said something worse, saying there "might have been a miscommunication" when she gave me her number and that the number is for "work only." Well, she didn't apply this very same standard to the other co-worker!