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So, today I had a discussion with one person on this site. We came on topic to how society expects men to provide for family and if they don't they lose value and are told to kill themselves. All of this is (in her opinion) because of harmful cultural norms.

I told her that, yes, there are such expectations, but it is because it's completely normal for women to prefer men that are resourceful - this is how we are genetically adjusted. And even if society formally does not expect men to be breadwinners, women still expect men to at least participate in the house budget.

Her response was "that might be so where you are from but that isn’t the case in the USA"

That made me curious. I am not from USA, but I know the majority of people here are from USA, and a lot of them are women.

I want you to highlight me - is it a case or not?

The question is inspired by recognition of "Black History Month", and specifically the meaning of that relates to "African Americans".

Would you [anyone] find it of value to to trace your heritage back to countries and regions? Is that a tool that provides a greater sense of self and identity? I've done that to some extent. The issue I perceive is the lost connection to the past for so many African americans and maybe that is true of other peoples as well. Thus a corrective measure, and possibly one that could be provided... free of charge..., to those whom no fault of their own, had their identities damaged or lost over history. That is one aspect of "reparations", restoration of identity, now possible, by technology.

As I think about how people identify their nationality, very often it's to some large social "national" or "regional" grouping, which forms unique cultural behaviors... usually in accent, language, food preferences, attire, movement/dance, etc.. These are all positives of cultures that people appreciate, feels good, and maybe even provides health!

For example, I've met these people in my life when I ask about them:

"I'm haitian and chinese!".. eventhough he's American.

I met an AA woman, she was very German, but American!

I met a young man in a shop, dark color, with a mask... he's Haitian... I couldn't discern the accent over the mask. He quickly reciprocated my french in even better French!

Nationality, culture adds depth and connection. With all of it comes assumptions, but further interest.

Nobody says North American, few say South American, African, or Asia. Very general associations.

Colors when used... are basic, very shallow. I don't know anyone when asked to make a presentation announces, "Hi, I'm black and yellow... I'm a bee!" It makes no sense, but these are used in media, govt forms... as media is shallow.