Assuming no laws exist (as most countries it's slightly different anyway) - what age do you feel it's appropriate for someone to freely chose who they want to date?
I see girls state they feel its liberating/empowering when they are 18/19 to date older men (similar age +5-10yrs older) and that it is ok because they are more mature than males the same age as them (so they claim as reason most times - may be true, who knows) so reject males the same age as them when they are younger most times (I don't agree they are more or less mature at same age as men - I think they are equal to males but females only on avg have a preference instinctually to date older).
Some girls and guys say 25+ is when humans are fully developed in the brain and only then should be allowed to chose (I also dont agree that this is the case as the brain still learns/develops at a slower rate - but continue to do so past 25, and some people are very mature at 19/20, others are still very immature well into their 30's. I know when I was 18/19 I certainly felt very responsible to choose for myself who I wished to date without needing my parents to sign off on it with a legal form for each hookup in university - and was highly responsible for choosing who I wanted to date at the time - even people who may be older in their mid to late 20's+ (If I wanted to chose - which I did not at the time myself - as a personal choice I would feel responsible to make that choice comfortably for myself each time). I assume if most girls are saying they are more mature than their male counterparts on avg at 18/19, or each age on relatively always at each age forever on, that this choice to choose must also be the same for females feeling responsible enough to choice what and who they want to chose to date with their own bodies each year 18/19 on - or is this actually not the case?
What are everyone's thoughts on this?
What Girls & Guys Said
I still go with the 18+, there are other countries where a girl and guy can marry at 16, I think that is way to young. 18 your or age to start making grown up decisions, if you ask most 18 year old girls and guys, they consider themselves adults. If we don't start treating them that way, how are they suppose to learn?
I still consider 20 and under to be something like a kid. So i’d say 21+ when you can do things like gamble and drink legally then your parent for sure should have no say so in the age gap. But people of course will still judge the age gap. I know i do 🤷♀️
it is your goverment law that sets that it is sometimes ott