As long as you are a legal adult (18 or over) you should date people within which age range (see poll)?

[Still-alive]

Just choose the age range you feel is most acceptable to you.

At most 5-10 years of your current age

Within at least most 2-3 years of your current age

As long as you are 18 or over you can date who you want at any age from 18 or over

at least after the other person is done with college or within their mid-late 20s if you are older

You should date someone within a different age range (say what)

[IronLady6354]

I'm in the best relationship of my life with my now husband who is 16 years younger then me. Moreover, all the men I dated/was married to before were my age or older. I get an age gap as large as ours working out is the exception (not the rule), but I do think it's proof you shouldn't automatically rule someone out just because of an age gap (something I was leaning towards doing at the beginning).

[pleasestopthis]

Whoever they want to date as long as both are consenting adults. Sometimes people fall in love with someone 20 years older, and they can have successful relationships.

[Still-alive]

you wouldn't see a relationship like that as 'odd' in your mind?

[pleasestopthis]

The gap is a little too big for me personally but I don't judge them, 20 years is still a decent gap. I'd definitely have second thoughts if I see a beauty pageant dating a rich 80 old senile dude.

[Still-alive]

i know you wouldn't judge but yeah i know plenty who would

[pleasestopthis]

beauty pageant girl*

[pleasestopthis]

yeah... but if you think it very well, people judge others for everything, so in the end it doesn't matter

[Still-alive]

sometimes judgment is necessary though but definitely not in this case

[Username371]

As a man, you should only date women between 18-25, unless you have no choice but to date the leftovers. Obviously at that age range the women are the most beautiful and fertile, and as men we put value on her beauty and don't really care about her career or income (many men like to simp for women and pretend they care about those things, tho).

[Yyyyu]

but most women find guys around their age most attractive

[Yyyyu]

also so you should leave you're wife after she is old?

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu got data to back it up?

most women i see just like guys who are older. never really give a limit

[Yyyyu]

When they say Older it usually mean 2 or 3 or 4 lol

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu again if you got data to back it up lets see it

[Yyyyu]

www.bustle.com/.../40157-okcupid-says-men-are-most-attracted-to-20-year-olds-and-heres-why-it-totally-doesnt-matter

[Yyyyu]

anyway just check age gap in marriage in countries where women can get education and can work. 1.2 in Japan 1.8 in England and Wales 1.8 in Sweden while 6.5 in West Africa 6 year in Central Africa. it show a pattern women literally only date older guy when they don't have any choice

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu yeahhh i don't trust that site. sounds too opinionated with an agenda.

how about a scholarly article with data?

[Yyyyu]

also my classmates would call me loser if I was dating a old guy.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu well those classmates are judgmental then.

[Yyyyu]

also usually older guys try to manipulate you lol I am mature so it don't work on me. They won't do it if younger girls were actually into old guys

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu some guys do. don't generalize us please

[Yyyyu]

How much should I google for finding more data? this site don't have any data it is just article (ok cupid had done a study about age gap people find most attractive men were into early 20s and girls were into guys who were around their age so those graph are showing it)

[Yyyyu]

they care about me lol they don't want any old guy to take advantage of me I adore them and I would do same thing so I can protect my friend's

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu www.powerofpositivity.com/.../

i can find just as many articles stating the opposite.

this one actually cites real studies here

[Still-alive]

"2016, a study was done on why some women wanted the older man as a partner. When the age gap is more than ten years, people think it’s an unhealthy relationship with the father. This study wanted to prove or discredit this theory, and they found that it’s not a fair stereotype because there’s no truth in these claims.

Of the 173 participants in this study, 44 were dating men at least a decade older than themselves. Most of these women had good relationships with their fathers and did not need to seek solace or a father/daughter relationship with an older man.

About 75 percent of the women said that they weren’t looking for a father figure, but they preferred the company of an older man to make them feel secure. If the father had been a great role model for the younger woman in life, then the maturity level they observed growing up brings them comfort in their relationship."

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu www.academia.edu/.../Evolutionary_Behavioral_Sciences_Attachment_Styles_of_Women_Younger_Partners_in_Age_Gap_Relationships

link to that study

[Yyyyu]

so you want to show me that those woman had good relationship with their father?

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu that study disproved that...

[Still-alive]

disproved they had unhealthy relationships with their father i mean

[Yyyyu]

anyway age gap benifit don't benifit woman (reason why most woman are against it) (same way gold digging don't benifit men reason why most men are against it. I don't understand men lol they want a girl who is younger and more good looking but they complain about gold digger or woman standard (it is normal to date someone around their age and in their look level their standard are not high and of course most young woman who like them like them for money another reason why so many women cheat and their is dead bedroom problem because those men marry woman who don't find them attractive )

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fY1DVShLwUM

here this woman explains why she prefers older men and also offers studies and such to back up why a lot of other women prefer it too

[Yyyyu]

I wonder how much more old guys earn how educated those woman are and how many do drugs and what is their body count and how poor their family is compared to normal women.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu a lot of assumptions you're making there hmmm

[Yyyyu]

When most women say older they literally mean 3 or 4 year older most women are not gold digger for example and she is YouTuber (she know that saying that she likes old men would help her)

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu anytime you wanna back that up with studies ill consider it otherwise nope i ain't buying it

[Yyyyu]

Hmm for example I know many classmates who are dating guys who are 3 or 4 year older so it really depend on your definition of old for example 25 year old are good looking and you can relate with them and easily talk with their friends. It is different than liking someone who is in their 40s or 50 s even sex is bad and their friends are talking about divorce their kids while you are thinking about assignment and internship. big difference

[Yyyyu]

Okay I had given you okcupid one and even check age gap in most marriage in your country and compare it with Africa and ask yourself why women in Africa marry older men while women in my country like guys who are slightly older and you would understand why.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu anecdotes aren't valid

but anyways look i don't doubt there is a large pool of women who prefer closer to their age.. but i can find soo many other examples of women wanting older guys. watching that youtube video she explains exactly why 1. more mature 2. more well established monetarily 3. more refined character 4. more ready to settle down and start a family 5. not solely interested in sex

[Yyyyu]

All of them are false through
there is reason why they're still single
Usually people who hit on younger people are not mature (most old men who used to hit on me were not mature lol) so gold digging? Even than it is not beneficial since these old men would retire before these women so women would work and men die before women so these women are gonna spend decades alone. also I know many guys who are earning very good money in their 20s in my family lol you don't need to be old for it for example these men are only rich because they are old. I am giving you a example imagine you are a med student who is dating a old guy in 40s he is only rich because he is old and you would earn more than him in future so even if you are gold digger for long term it would be better to date another med student. They probably already have kids and paying child support lol and do you really want you're kid's to not see their father? since old men would die nope lol not solely interested in sex these men are hitting on college girl because they're young and hot just see this guy he literally fetishize young woman. there is reason why they're not hitting on woman around their age because they have fetish

[Yyyyu]

For example I won't consider a college student who actually hang out with high school kids mature why would I consider a middle age men who hit on college girls mature? age gap between college student and high school student is actually smaller and I am only talking about being their friend not dating.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu look you are only bringing up examples

what i said is NOT exhaustive by any means you will find outliers that will fit what you are positing here but that doesn't make it the dominant narrative that you are attempting to paint here. So even if you can prove it isn't true older guys aren't how the girl in the video described it still doesn't disprove that women still see them this way and consequently pursue older men because of this perception.

[Yyyyu]

Most men don't want gold digger so why being richer matter? also won't those men retire and die before you? yes maybe they do we should spread awareness about why age gap is bad for women. how is someone mature if they date someone who is 20 year younger?

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu "how is someone mature if they date someone who is 20 year younger? "

because many guys see them as mature.

[Yyyyu]

Lol if they wanted a mature girl than they would date someone who is around their age I am not dumb they have fetish for youth and same guys would leave after you are older. there is reason why red pill men who are actually worst men in the world prefer older women they're easily to manipulate and they talk about how they can trick women (it is disgusting) just go to website about abusive relationship literally most men are older. i had read somewhere that age gap is bigger in abusive relationship and divorce rate is also higher. Most women I have met online regret dating a old men they say that he had tricked her or stole her youth or manipulated her.

[Yyyyu]

psychcentral.com/.../a-therapist-reveals-the-surprising-truth-about-older-men-marring-younger-women
Age gap are not healthy and they're bad deal for women.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu ok now you're just rambling off a bunch of stuff with no substantiation to them.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu one persons opinion verses several in that other study i linked does not make it so. sorry

[Yyyyu]

Let's agree to disagree I am tired of arguing you can go after young woman I can't stop you so it don't matter but I won't date old and you can't stop me so it don't matter. let's just end our argument on a good notes I am sick so I really can't argue that much.

[Still-alive]

@Yyyyu i go after who i feel is a good match for me that could be any age younger or older than me even. doesn't matter. last girl i was with was about 7ish years younger. not that much really

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I voted C, because I have been in a relationship with a woman ten years my senior when I was 20 and have had a little something with another who was more than 20 years older, although it wasn't a proper relationship.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

And thinking on it, all the women I've been with were older than me - my wife is too - probably because I look and act older than my age.

[pleasestopthis]

Did others judge or criticize you for the choices you made?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@pleasestopthis not really, because those relationships were mostly private so people didn't know much about it. My mother freaked out when I told her after it was over because that woman was slightly older than her, but apart from that no big judgements.
The worst judgments actually came here when I asked about it anonimously.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you for MHO!

[artsygirl457]

i personally dont think i would have anything in common with someone 18 at my age. 25/26 would be about the youngest if we by chance had anything in common, though in the other direction 46 would be around the oldest again depending on what we had in common

[IveGotNoName]

After the age of like 26, I say date whichever older age you want. As for 18-26 I'd say within a range of about 4 years as long as they are not under 18, unless you are 18, then 17 should be fine.

[Still-alive]

Why is 18-26 the age range there?

[IveGotNoName]

I know 25 year olds who are still extremely immature, so I figured by 26 maybe they've gotten it together🤣

[Still-alive]

How would you feel about a 27 year old with sayy a 65 year old? Wouldn’t seem odd to you?

[IveGotNoName]

Yes it would, but that's their hopefully mature choice

[Still-alive]

You wouldn’t judge them over that?

[IveGotNoName]

I would try my hardest not to 😂

[FinalFantasyBro]

I believe age honestly don't have a number but I also understand you have to date someone who at least 18 year old and above 18 because some people would take advantage of small children. So yes as long you aren't getting with people who are under eighteen I say let any love be

[NathanDavis]

adults should date whoever other adult, they are happy with, they're adults... even if their age-gap is 100 years... that's still their choice to make and about their lives, my judgment on their situation is not needed.

[valentina4eva]

voted within 5-10 years of current age but that might change as i get older🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[Still-alive]

definitely changed with me lol

[RedFever]

Age doesn't matter that much to me, unless it's something like a 30 year difference, in which case a relationship is less likely to work due to the fact we're likely to have fewer things in common.

[Miah02]

As long as you over 18, date over 18. Ya good, cuhh.
I prefer older guys, so I be lookin for guys between 25 to 35.

[electromagnetic]

As soon as you turn 18 and are of legal age, date whom ever you want.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Anyone age 18 can date anyone the age 18 and older and it shouldn't matter
but one time these couples were dating, she was age 17 and the guy age 19
but the parents approved which shouldn't matter much

[GrimmGothBabe]

I think everyone has a different age range they are comfortable with, I preferred stating from my age and anywhere up to 5 years older but never younger.

[ChrisMaster69]

Date whomever you want, as long as legal, no coercion, a person is being dated because of the person and not their age.

would be hypocritical for me to say otherwise

[karaspara]

No right or wrong answer to this personal preference

[Still-alive]

What feels rightcto you?

[karaspara]

I always pteferred older men but now of course i'm older myself lol

[Still-alive]

Im still older than you last I checked;
;)

[Neko911]

No idea. For me I was 19 at one point dating a 16 year old so

[menina]

Voted A. I don't even need to think twice. However, I wouldn't date someone who is 10 years older than me.

[snackthatsmilesback]

I think C. If you wanna be safe divide the pools again at 25. But as long as attraction's mutual by 18 you're responsible for that decision like other adults.

[MysteriousDarkness]

As long as they are mentally capable of understanding what's going on a d are mature enough then 18+ should be able to date 18+. My girlfriend is 12 years 8 months 5 days older than me. She turns 51 this month.

[Tunasub]

Date who they want. If both parties are legal then why not

[Still-alive]

some might say an 18 year old dating a 60+ year old is pretty suspect though. what would you say to that?

[Tunasub]

It may be too much... but I will say when I was 20 I was banging a woman in her late 50's. She looked like she was in her mid 30's.. no bs. Smokin' damn

[Still-alive]

lol nice dude

[Tunasub]

That was a fun 2 months..

[Still-alive]

woulda been what in the 90s?

[Tunasub]

Yes sir..91 to be exact.

[ConnorJHutton531]

In my opinion, half the oldest person’s age plus 7 is the general rule of thumb for the age gap. 👌

[scentoflavender]

As long as they're over 18, they're free to pursue happiness

[Kaneki05]

Uk been 16, anything over 16. Age's that closer to the same as your's is often better tho.

[Yyyyu]

2 to 3 year older until 25 human brain developed until 25 and many people in their early 20s are studying after it 5 (anything more than it is not healthy)

[Yyyyu]

Older person can also groom/manipulate you.

[Yyyyu]

as expected most women don't support big age gap 😄

[KWill90]

Your age, divided by two, plus seven. That's the very minimum age you should date.

[dolemite89]

i've always thought the 4-5 year age difference worked well for long term relationships after the age of 25 in straight relationships at least, women tend to like the a guy that’s a bit older than them men a bit younger.

[Jlegacy]

I can date any age that still looks as young as me😂

[succubus_girl]

i really don't think it matters

I've been with guys my age and guys 20+ years older

[SmokinAces2000]

I’m 20 and the youngest I’d go is obviously 18 and I don’t generally date girls older than me unless it’s a year or less

[CT_CD]

As long as you are 18 or over you can date who you want at any age from 18 or over

[Slim57]

18 and over you can date whoever, may seem weird for any 18 year old to date a 50 year old but if its consensual and legal let them be

[Babygirl_S]

I like white men 10-15 years older than me.

[Still-alive]

Just white men?

[Babygirl_S]

Yes they're exotic to me.

[exitseven]

Consenting adults should date anyone they want.,

[Pj1981]

Your an adult. Make your own adult decisions.

[darkcloud1945]

Love knows no bounds!

[Juxtapose]

Past 18, I don't care about the age.

[Jerre]

I chose C. Age doesn’t matter to me.

[NorthwestRider]

Age is just a number