Search Results: using sex to make friends

1. I am 27
2. Works full time as a junior-to-mid level software developer making $45k/yr (will increase exponentially overtime)
3. Own a motorhome
4. Own 2 cars
5. Still lives at home with parents.
6. Smokes cigarettes
7. Overweight
8. Never had a real girlfriend, although been on a few dates before
9. Lost my virginity at age 20 to a 16 year old girl... haven't had sex since
10. Never experienced young love/romance
11. Hardly any friends, except one good one
12. Acts goofy a lot and makes noises
13. Very kind and charitable
14. Socially awkward
15. Has a mild case of Asperger's
16. Used to work as an EMT
17. Eats own boogers
18. Has 2 misdemeanor criminal convictions of stalking and harassment

One of the reasons men get so angry over the friendzone is not because we lost our opportunity to be more than friends. Rejection burns but that is just a fact of life for more most men. Dating is like being a door to door salesman to us. Its up to us to make it happen and if we get a no then we want to move on ASAP until we eventually hear a yes. The disinterested girl is now just a liability if we continue to waste our time and energy on her.

Anyway the real reason we get angry about the friendzone is we feel like our masculinity isn’t being respected. Respecting a man surely doesn’t mean dating him, having sex and/or getting a relationship. Its understanding his gamble he took a (likely uncomfortably) by approaching you. It’s now your turn to be forthcoming about where you stand. It need to be done sooner than later.

Confidently assuming he is going to be okay with being platonic friends when it’s plain as day he wants more is disrespectful, cowardly and selfish.

While I can understand that women are nervous that men won’t take rejection well in reality most guys can take in in stride. If they do get angry or rude than take that as confirmation you made the right choice.

No the truth is most women don’t want to lose out on the benefits of having the interested guy in their orbit (attention, favors, ego boost, someone to use against you really like, etc.). They also know that interested guy will likely do more for them vs someone who isn’t. This is especially true of if they see the guy is “nice” which women either consciously or subconsciously find feminine. Most of them have no idea how deeply insulting that attitude to vast majority of hetero men.

Anyway I haven’t been “friéndzoned” in a very long time but I’ve had women attempt that crap (including grown ass women in their 30s). The attempt itself is infuriating tbh (a woman past 30 should know better. I feel there should come a point in a woman’s life where she should understand male psychology better.