What's going on here, why do we have this love hate type of thing going on?

[Erica686]

So long story, very short. My use to be friends with benefits of 7 years and 8 years knowing each other. We hate this love hate type of relationship. Like him alone he has his own issues and all. But it's like every since we still not having sex with each other and I told him about my fake boyfriend. Things took a turn, but I definitely noticed when we stopped being intimate with each other. We stopped having sex back in July. But even at that time we were on good terms. Then it's like communication just slowly started to drift Weeks Later. And now we just don't have communicate with each other like that at all. I mean he tried to reach out to me like a month ago I think one or two months ago but I didn't budge. So he I was feeling some type of way about that. Plus I think he was in a situationship with someone I'm dealing with that on the side. Then this past week I sent him this video cuz he just kept posting things that was a bit sad. And he was also posting quote. So this past week I decided to send him a funny video. He didn't really say much about it but he responded hours later with a LOL and saved the video. But since then, there still was no communication. But also when he's in the present moment with my energy I get all this Moody negative energy around him. And little things I'll say or if I don't read his messages or whatever or look at his snaps. He feel some type of way about it or if I go MIA. That's when he starts to get curious and starts looking for me. So typically when I start to pull back from him that's when he wants to start the pull in towards me. So I most recently posted something on my snap yesterday night. And it was directed towards him. The basically it said lately I've been noticing who's been really rocking with me and not and all I just want to say make sure you keep that same energy. Continue to re updates the question below.

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This was a quote off of Twitter and I added my own little saying and said keep the energy all year round. That was like 19 hours ago. Then he posted something 15 hours ago off Facebook. And it said I don't want to be around anything that's not for me other than motivation money and real love. So he posted a few of those little quotes. But I'm just trying to figure out what is this energy that's going on between us why do we have all this love and hate towards each other. ?

[spartan55]

Could you be any more obsessed over a guy who will NEVER want a relationship with you? You do understand this, right?
Did you ever stop to think that the whole childish fake boyfriend bit really pissed him off?

[Erica686]

I don't think that I'm obsessed over him I just don't understand why all this negative energy towards me. I done nothing to him. Like how do you send me a message and say shut up leave me alone. And remind you I haven't talked to this guy in like months I only just sent him a video off Tik Tok. I most recently posted something yesterday night and he comment on it. But it wasn't anything positive. Like you know the history you know this long song and dance and I'm sure you're probably like this girl if you are that bothered by him then just block them. And I don't mean to keep going on about this guy is really pathetic and ridiculous in 2022 is not going to be the same, that's for sure. But I just don't understand how two people can one minute have so much love and in communication at Times. But now he's acting like I did something to him. Like he's not henna me I'm asking me for sex he's not really bothering me. He's just very cold and distance towards me. Then I noticed when I start to pull back and away from him that's when he gets curious to where I am. But it seemed like whoever he's the one it's making him go a little nuts. But like I said from the first time he try to reach out to me I rejected his respond. And that's when I noticed his change in Behavior towards me. 🤔

[spartan55]

You are obsessed. It's all you ever talk about on here. I don't know why you even bother with the guy. He isn't your friend, he will always want to fuck you, or try to fuck you because... wait for it... that's all you are to him... I don't know why you can't get that...

[Erica686]

Your right. And that's why I blocked him

[Erica686]

For some reason. He's been coming off like an ass. And I ain't do shit to him.

[Sam_The_Savage]

I'm really sorry I didn't understand what's the question so much confusion.

[Erica686]

Like lately he's just been projecting all this negative energy towards me. I don't know who he's mad at but I didn't do anything to him. But it's just a little things that I say he makes comments on those. He doesn't have to be direct with me I just know for sure for a fact.

[kyleelyn199723]

Well you two decided to waste 7-8 years on each other with no title, so it’s no wonder you would love and hate each other 🤷🏻‍♀️ Not sure why you two couldn’t have made it a relationship for 7-8 years

[Erica686]

Because to be honest with you girl he wanted to keep his options open I don't have time for that type of stuff. And I think that he still in love with his baby mama. So no need

[kyleelyn199723]

But 7-8 years is super wasteful of years to just waste on a person that has no intentions on dating you.

[Erica686]

I agree with you and that's why I stopped being intimate with him. Like back in July. I mean he has his own issues aside of what's going on between him and I. He told me that if things is going to be between him and I in the future and then it will be. But if things was meant to be it would have already been. I never ask this man for a relationship and I never bothered him about being in one. But from what many people have mentioned and said to me he only just wants to hook up in the benefit nothing real serious. But then yet go out here and start messing with trash. Smh