Girl lied about her Age and Past. Is it my fault for breaking up?

[samandersons]

Hey folks... I was in a on and off relationship with this Girl for 3 years
Problems and reasons for the breakup
1 ) She lied about her Past and she was in a live in relationship with a guy
2 ) Lied about her age by 4 years
3 ) Stole money from my house and Got caught ( I thought it was immature and Forgave her.
4 ) Stole money From another Friends house and was caught
5 ) She also lies a lot to get my attention and once she told that she was arrested and was in the Police station for 2 days for a smuggling case ( Could be a lie , but now thinking back and connecting the dots it looks Possible it is true )
6 ) Changed her Religion to christianity and was working for a Church and Pastor who is a fraud and uses people faith for his monetary purposes.. and after 2 years she changed back to hinduism to marry a guy.
7 ) Tried to date other guys and went out for dates in the 3 years when we were not going out and had a breakup for a month And when we started the relationship again she hid all that from me.
8 ) Also when one of my close friends found out about her Age she told him not to tell me and was willing to go behind my back and kind of make a deal with my Friend...

In summary I thought she has not integrity and likes the Deal of marrying me and not me. And she is from the north of india and I m from the South. So I dont know anything about her Family background and her Past. So I realised that After marrying me that chances of her Absconding With all the money is more than her being with me forever. I thought the mistakes are not impulsive immaturity but a well thought out Planned Fraud Act. Now she is married to a guy who is 7 years younger than her. Inspite of all this she loved me and had a thing for me and I did too... she told me I used her for sex and then dumped her ( Which I did initially but then Wanted to marry her.. until I found out about all the Stealing and Age lies )
Am I at fault here for using her For Sex for 3 years?

[PrettyPriya]

To be honest, never good using someone, period. However, she does not seem like a very good person and while I do not condone this thinking, probably deserved what she got.

She seems like a pathological liar and the fact that she stole is disgusting. Best off she is out of your life as no one needs that type of person as a girlfriend or friend.

It obviously leads to nothing but trouble and heartache.

[samandersons]

Thanks for your Reply.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you AI Bot

[NathanDavis]

yes, you are in the wrong...

both are, and have done very wrong things...

but you invited me to this question and asked about yourself so yes, I think you're wrong when you use the wrongs of others to justify your own wrongdoing... that's twice as wrong and very immature as well...

but these are lessons learned... try to be better in the future, and more importantly... be more selective with the kind of people you get involved with and how you get involved with them

[Aussie-guy]

You should've severed ties much earlier. Sex is easy to get, dignity is a lot harder to get back.

Anyway, seems like you've learnt your lesson. Let the top brain do the thinking when there's signs of red flags.

[samandersons]

Thanks for the Reply... I thought she was just impulsive and immature... I stop the ties immediately once I knew about her lying about her age and when I came to know about her stealing from my another friends Place... You think I m at fault? I feel a bit guilty...

[Aussie-guy]

Naivety isn't a fault, it's a lack of wisdom and experience. Don't stress. Don't beat yourself up. Just get the ultimate revenge and move forward happy.

[Carolmille]

If all you’ve written is true, then you did the right thing. No one can fault you. She didn’t deserve you.

[samandersons]

Thanks for the reply. Yes it is true , every word of it.

[Anon621]

I do believe considering the actions this girl had taken I don't necessarily believe its your fault. Sometimes it's hard to spot potentially bad people if you have little experience or maybe you have a lot of experience but maybe this is the first time you have dated someone who's done all of these things so obviously you didn't know what to look for or what was gonna happen until it happened. With that being said I think you made the right decision ending the relationship because being in a relationship with people like this can be really bad especially if you're not causing trouble but your partner is doing all these things so people suspect you might have helped her or done something even though you didn't do anything and didn't know about it until after

[jshm2]

Sonny, it is your fault for not realising this was a train wreck relationship sooner.

[samandersons]

Thanks for the reply... I was Feeling very guilty and even suffering from Bipolar... Thanks for your comments and time..

[Bdsmaster]

Look mate honestly speaking she was not a right girl if all you wrote about her is true but you are at fault too for taking three years to realize that she was not a right girl.
You started to understand that she was not right but you still stayed with her that's your fault.
In conclusion it should not have gotten this far.

[samandersons]

thanks for your Reply. I forgave her for stealing money from me ( thought it was childish ) and Lying about her Past and even wanted to marry her. But once I found out about her age and her stealing from Others houses as well.. Do you think I m at fault for having a physichal relationship with her for 3 years?

[Bdsmaster]

As I told you mate you are at fault for not realising that you should have left her earlier.

[this_kassi]

This should not be seen as a faulty move. It is up to you if your love for her can look past her real age and past.

Although, some damages are worse than others. If that is the case with you. It is good that you ended that relationship.

[AviatorTom]

She has a lot of issues and you were right to dump her. Consider yourself lucky. You got to have sex for 3 years and she is no longer in your life. There's no point having any guilt. Move on with life!

[TommyMountainFigure]

There are always 2 sides to every story but the thing that has been stumped is why it matters to you who's fault it was!
It's over so forget about it.

[t-8900]

I got to #3 and by that point the breakup was by every means justified. You've lost nothing but a problem. Keep going strong and carry on

[DJB72]

Yes. You used her.

She's also at fault for the lies and theft.

Sounds like a match...

[Miristheiss]

If she was that deceitful and dishonest I'd say you made a wise decision to dump her.

[DaveToo]

It sounds like she doesn't have very much integrity. If that's the case, she really needs to hit the road. I'd be careful of her having an STD.

[uncutfun]

It's not her fault, but your... the signs are all there.. but you wanted to be captain save a "hole"lol... live and learn... it's all with good intentions..

[uncutfun]

As soon as both partners, name each other as boyF/girl F... the passed is the passed.. ,,,,, everything is new, and the future, is up to you

[Seangreen]

Gtfo of there. There's more to life than getting laid and there's other vagina out there

[wonderfulstation404]

People usually refer to me as the “kind one”
but bruh those 3 suffice me to break up with her wft it’s not like we had kids and all that crap

[msc545]

This is a dangerous woman with a personality disorder. Get her OUT of your life.

[ChiPaPa]

It's not your fault. She was an asshole.

[samandersons]

thanks for your reply :)

[samandersons]

thanks for your Reply

[Browneye57]

Naw... bang away. Just don't marry BSC.

[Rainbowdash_999]

She didn’t deserve you so you done the right thing

[dudeinohio]

No. It appears you were used. You are ok.

[noohair]

She is not for you. You are lucky.

[Anonymous]

Not your fault at all.

[samandersons]

thanks for your reply