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When you are single and look for a partner do you usually just focus on dating one person at a time or multiple potential partners until you get exclusive with one of them?

Before you vote, I think it’s better that you talk to multiple people at once because you can easily move on from girls that you have less in common with. For example, if you only talk to one girl, you would be kind of forced to settle and accept the differences you otherwise would not. If you talk to two girls at once, you can compare and see who is a better fit for yourself. Now, throw in multiple people at once and you get to choose the best partner possible for yourself. This is just smart in my opinion. Obviously, I only mean “talking” or “dating” and not anything serious that may be considered cheating.

I've recently started dating on OkCupid and I'm talking to 18 different women. This is the first time I've ever tried dating (I'm 24 by the way) and I honestly don't know what I'm doing. I just found a bunch of women that I'm interested in and started chatting with them at the same simultaneously and over time I weed them out and choose the one that's right for me. I've only been doing this for 10 days now so none of the relationships are official. I have not met any of them in person and I'm not having sex until I found the one I want to be with. I just know that this is how my mom dated after my dad passed away, and she's been with my stepdad for almost 10 years now. I feel somewhat weird doing this, is this how dating actually works. Should I keep the fact that I'm talking to other women a secret? I hate lying.