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I ask this question because I noticed often times when someone’s trying to solve a conflict where a Partner is let with them, they are more so trying to extricate themselves from an uncomfortable situation of somebody being angry with them.

🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s similar to “just give me the answer” on a maths problem, rather than understanding how you arrived at the answer. Which is always going to be tempting for people at one point or another. But this doesn’t solve the problem long-term because if you don’t know what’s going on and you don’t know what causes you don’t know how to keep it from happening again, if that’s not possible sometimes conflicts come up repeatedly.

🫤 I tend NOT to see much trying to _understand_ what is happening with the other person.. what is really making them upset.

I’m sure you have seen solutions for getting out do the 🐶 🏡 that have nothing to do with learning anything, rather ways to hopefully placate the other party.. gifts treats surprises favors etc. Thats stuff is absolutely bonkers to me. Here you have a solid learning opportunity that can help everyone long term and you try to buy it off. 🤯

Or the lazy generic “how do you get a woman to forgive you” “ how do you get a man to not be angry” nothing about what that actual person is experiencing and what brought out the maybe overly dramatic reaction in that moment.

I think many people would even be _annoyed_ if they were upset and someone started asking “what are you going through? What’s happening with you, what even caused this?”

🧐 I find it very _interesting_ when someone’s really upset. I tend to not get defensive because I’m more interested in understanding what’s going on over having a fight… I mean, unless of course I’m being accused of something absolutely ridiculous that has nothing to do with me- that is annoying af 🤨 but otherwise I’m more into taking an observing position.. I have observed this can be irritating to people who are very angry, however not my intent. 👀

Brad & I started long-distance dating through an online app in Nov 2023. He met me in person in Feb. I managed to move closer to his city because of school from March-June, so once I came, we began living together & he proposed to me in May. I didn't share this info with my family since they're crazy. A school situation happened where I got dismissed, so my sister came to move me back home in June. She met him for the first time & didn't like him for different reasons. She said I had no choice but to come home since my mom had heart issues & needed me. Brad didn't want me to go, so I told him to meet my family & we all left the following day.

My family didn't like him since he was focused on taking me back to his home & not caring about my mom needing me/my school situation. I decided to stay with family & Brad disliked that since he hoped I'd leave that day. He left & gave me a hard time about my decision since then. My mom said she plans a Sept party where I can move back in with him more honorably than if I just left. Brad didn't want to do it, but I did. We waited until Sept & then I discovered my mom lied. She hoped we'd break up by now since she didn't like him. I fought with her about it, she apologized, & now booked the venue in Nov by showing me confirmation. She even talked with his parents for the first time about this as well so they can see if she keep her word. Brad now feels distrust with her & said if I didn't leave my home by the end of the month, then he'd end the relationship even though he's not going to help me leave here truly. I told him if my mom started to do anything fishy before Nov, I'd leave, but it didn't make sense to end the relationship over something like this, especially since I planned to visit. He sent me a goodbye/breakup text last night and goodnight. I texted him a couple of texts, but he hasn't responded. Do you think he's taking time to think and will reply soon? Or do you think he's ghosting me? I don't want to lose him :(