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When I go to the barber, I'm not much of a talker unless the barber starts talking to me a lot. I usually just want to get in, get my haircut, and get out. I'll talk if the barber starts talking to me, but I don't usually say a whole lot unless the barber starts talking about something I'm interested in.

As this woman barber started cutting my hair, she asked something about what I was doing for the rest of the day. I said I ran a bunch of errands and was just going to go home and relax after. She asked what I do to relax, and I said probably watch some TV or YouTube.

She asked what kind of TV I watch, and I said I don't watch a whole lot of TV unless there's something I want to see. She then asked what I watch on YouTube. So I said I watch stuff related to cryptocurrency and NFTs. She actually showed interest and asked what kind I invest in, and she asked me to explain more what NFTs are. Etc.

She asked if I listen to podcasts. I said I like paranormal podcasts, and she got really excited. She said she was raised Catholic. She said she was interested in bigfoot, which made me laugh. She asked me for some recommendations for good paranormal podcasts, so I gave her three.

While ringing me up, she took out some paper and a pen and asked me to repeat the names, so I did. She wrote them down. She then handed me her Sports Clips business card, which had her first name and last initial handwritten on it. She also gave me a sticker that had some design and said "B______ Styles" on it. I assume the B______ was her last name.

When she handed me her card, I handed her my business card and explained that I'm a lawyer. She looked at it and saw that I was a family law attorney. She said she would have to get married first before she could get divorced in a joking way.

She then discounted my haircut from $30 down to $20. I tipped her $10. The whole time, she was really bubbly and smiled a lot. She was cute.

My girlfriend is an alcoholic, I have been with her for 5 years and living together for a year.

Her problems worsened around the time of the pandemic and her depression has worsened since then and she has become dependent on alcohol.

She will be fine when I leave for work in the morning but when I come home in the evening she will be semi conscious on the floor and there will be 2-3 empty bottles in the recycling.

Way back (approx 10-12 years ago?) her father cheated on her mother and broke up the family unit. Years later her mother is now back living with the father though they are NOT in a relationship.

We have had numerous interactions with medical professionals and one issue that keeps coming up is the break up of the family caused by her father's infidelity and lying she says "he broke my heart".

I have tried to involve her parents in her recovery by keeping them informed and have asked the father to engage in counselling with my girlfriend to try and get her past this. She had had counselling for this issue for the past decade but he never engaged with her on it and no-one in the family is allowed to talk about it.

Her father has now taken a very aggressive stance towards me since I raised the subject. He has asked me to leave his daughter and suggested she break up with me as I am a 'Toxic' person. My question is do I stay and fight it out to get her the closure I really believe she needs or do I leave which will mean at 35 she goes back to living with her mother and father? I'm at a loss to know as I love her but not the person the alcohol is making her become.