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She hates me…. despises me. Maybe because I’m the only one that had called out her horrible behavior in the past. Anyway, I always keep my distance from her and avoid all contact. However, she’s always complaining about something regarding me…I’m not in my desk, I don’t answer her calls, I don’t keep her up to date when I’m off…me doing “whatever I want” according to her or me simply existing. Everyone else hates her but have normalized her behavior and nobody speaks up. Anyway, a few weeks ago I heard her gossiping about me with a coworker saying…I’m crazy. Then again today during a workplace safety meeting the topic of safe and hostile work environments. She raised her hand and asked about…what if there’s a coworker that can possibly have mental issues, is it reportable?
I don’t understand what’s her hatred towards me. Anyway, I’ve talked to my manager and he was useless. I’ve talked to the union and they were useless too saying we’re both bargaining unit employees and they can’t intervene. So, what exactly am I left to do when she hates me…is supposed to be my technical lead to answer my question but I can’t due to her personality. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
I’m 25 years old
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Well. She needs to feel superior to someone. You called a narcissist out and now a narcissist will try and get back at you. By all means possible. She doesn’t have a right to go out of her own way to harass someone she claims to hate. If you leave her alone I don’t understand at all why she can’t leave you alone. It makes ZERO sense to me.
She needs to be reported to HR and possibly taken to court if it doesn’t stop. It’s gaslighting.
Im glad you have spoken to management and they’re trying to do something hopefully things work out.
I’ve reported her behavior to my manager, my manager’s manager and the union but the union told me they can’t get involved because we’re both federal bargaining unit employees. My manager is new and he’s aware of her behavior but because she’s been with this federal agency for 30+ years she has the upper hand in everything and doesn’t respect our manager. My manager’s manager is aware of my complain too and he said he’d talk to her…which did happen because the day after I overheard her talking to another coworkers saying I was crazy. Anyway, I requested to be moved to another unit or a different shift but I doubt it’s happening. In fact, I think they’re aware of my complains but didn’t do much to remedy the situation. My manager spoke to her too and told her to stay in her lane which I’m sure got under her skin too because the day after in the meeting she was saying we can’t be getting away with whatever we want etc. manager had to tell her to stay in her lane again.
Anyway, I try my best to stay away from her and not talk to anyone but I guess it ain’t enough. Apparently some of my own coworkers are spying on me for her too telling her my every move 😅. It’s awkward and I’m mentally drained. Not sure why she’s make that question in today’s meeting either insinuating someone, me, having mental problems 😅. How could she even conclude that if I don’t even talk to her?
What do you recommend I do? Because apparently not much is going to get done about this and she hates me. I was thinking renrolling in school and requesting a shift change or if there’s no other option…lining up another job and leaving this one. It’s exhausting having to deal with an older woman, someone that could be my mother, having drama with me.
Well. If she’s slandering you to others. You can file a harassment lawsuit. Possibly find some restraining order. There may not be much they can do but seeing if you could get harassment charges filed.
I would say. For your own good. Reenroll in school as well and maybe find a shift or change jobs or shifts. Better your own life and do what’s best for you if you’re not happy
Will do!! Thank you, I appreciate it.
You’re welcome. Feel free to message me if you need any other advice. I may not have all the answers but I can try