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Ok me and this girl met when we were about 20 and had a great relationship for 8 years. I started drinking and it lead to us breaking up. She started dating a guy 2 weeks later I introduced her to. They lasted less than a year and we got back together exactly a year after separating.

I ended up finding pictures of her in sexy outfits and nudes on our old camera one day and some sexting stuff while going through our stuff in a closet I was cleaning out. I didn't tell her I found them. I spent the next 3 years trying to get her to send me dirty pictures. She broke up with me again and we separated for 3 years and then ended up back together again.

we've been back together over 10 years now and I have randomly tried a lot of times to get her to send me sexy stuff or sext with me, nothing has worked. This finally came to a head. I got tired of trying and getting nothing. We got into a pretty big argument about it and during the argument I find out that she thinks I'm talking about pictures she sent to another guy she dated right after we broke up the second time.

So both guys she dated right after we split she sent nudes and sexted with but whenever I have tried to get her to in the past I get excuses like she's worried about sending them because someone could get them for whatever reason which is all just excuses to me. So What, did you send them with pigeons the last 2 times.

Over the years this has gotten under my skin trying and never getting anything back. I usually have tried when I've been out of town for work or something. When I've tried sexting with her the responses have been either nothing at all or something that was just lame or her saying she didn't know what to say.

She says that she's been more sexually adventurous with me than anyone else ever. Our sex life I used to think was good but now I'm second guessing it. I usually make sure she gets off first and then she's in a hurry to get it over with. why is there no desire or lust there for her?

I’ve been with my girlfriend Becky for a long time. I think I love her and I really enjoy spending time with her. However, she’s recently shared her ugly past with me. When she was in her younger years she had a rep of sleeping around.

She apparently was the school slut who got tagged teamed by the jocks. Becky even told me about how when she was 15 and had fuck buddies in their 30’s. And how when she was in university she dated 3 guys at once and caught chlamydia and gonorrhoea twice. Even used Only Fans to pay for school.

Even worse, she supposedly slept with other men when she was married. Her excuse was that her and her husband broke up and stayed married so he wouldn’t get deported.

After knowing all this I’m starting to look at her differently. Sometimes I see Becky the same way I see the woman in the picture. But it’s hard to leave Becky because she is trying really hard to make this relationship work. I’m a low value man with no proper education and job, and she makes feel like a high value man with the way she treats me. She really wants us to get married and keeps telling her friends Im gonna but her a ring. But it’s a tough decision for me.

She wants to meet my parents and I know they’re not gonna like her at all. My parents are and have always people skills. They can pick up on things.

The other day beck told me she’s having suicidal thoughts and being with helps her not think suicidal. She’s undergoing therapy atm.

Her book (1971) argues that men, not women, are actually the ones oppressed through courtship, marriage, and cultural expectations. She compares marriage to slavery, saying men give up independence to provide for women and children in exchange for affection. It’s been called misogynistic, but also brutally honest and thought-provoking.
What do you think—truth or outdated generalization?

📚 The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar (1971) (title changed to “The Tamed Man” for modern audience) remains one of the most controversial books on gender roles.

Villar argues men are not oppressors but the opposite: women use courtship, marriage, and social expectations to make men providers and protectors. Men give up freedom, risk their lives, and work for women and children in exchange for brief affection.

She compares marriage to slavery — the wedding as the day a man loses independence, entering a Sisyphean struggle enforced by culture and government. She also describes “female rivalry,” where women compete to control men, using sex and pressure to keep them loyal.

Other writers, like Chinweizu (The Anatomy of Female Power) and Warren Farrell (The Myth of Male Power), echo the claim that society is more matriarchal than acknowledged.

Condemned as misogynistic but praised as brutally honest, the book challenges us to rethink who truly holds power in relationships.

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