Why does my sister keep encouraging me to give my guy best friend a chance when I complain about no guys I want like me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had a few boyfriends, dates but they ended up in a disaster. I was dating this one guy for four months but we ended up hanging fights and he thought I was using my disability as an excuse and I would fight to keep the relationship but he dumped me. I am so DONE with men! My parents said I’m so blind when there’s been a good guy in front of me for YEARS. My parents really like him, especially my dad. He asked me when am I going to go on a date with him. I should ask him. But I’m not attracted to him or have feelings for him. Plus I like fit and lean guys but I know personally is important. I know I’m am a tall chubby person like he is and we’re both autistic.
I can’t go out with someone I have no feelings for. Nobody ever asks how I feel about it. It’s always the guy friend feelings they care for. Nobody asked me. They just tell me I should give him a chance. My older sister said, “The good looking and cute guys aren’t always the best partners. I mean some are but averages guys like your friend would make better partners. I mean average guys can be jerks too but still. I know you don’t have feelings for him but mom and dad seems to really like him and dad hoped that you would end up with him. There is something very special about you two. I think you like him too but you’re too stubborn to admit it. I think he’s the one for you. He’s been there by your side, since DAY ONE. He’s the only guy that kept contact with it you and you better not push him away. Even as kids, I saw him follow you EVERYWHERE and he always chooses you to partner up with a girl, he always asks you to the dance every year, he asked you out NUMEROUS times. He IS IN LOVE WITH YOU. It’s up to you, but I say GIVE HIM A CHANCE! He will NEVER BREAK YOUR HEART.” Should I just give up on other guys and just give my guy friend a chance? No other man wants an autistic, fat tall woman. I always get paired up with fat/chubby guys anyways.

[Anonymous]

Stop asking this all the time. You know you can cut off your guy friend and you have a billion excuses in the world why you don’t so clearly you aren’t so phased by your sisters comments or anyone else’s. I don't know wtf else you want us to tell you anyway. Ditch the guy or shut up about him.

[ProbablyClueless]

This is always a tricky spot to be in. They want you to be happy, but they think that you're getting in your own way.

Sometimes people around us recognize things that we can't see because we're too close to our own situation.

It's possible that you and this guy would be a good couple. But, you shouldn't force something. Are you opposed to going on the date to at least give it a try for an evening?

One date doesn't automatically y'all have to get married.

[Asker]

I just don’t want to give him false hopes. That is why I kept saying no. I’m not going out with someone I’m not attached too. My best friend said, “So what? Some people aren’t attracted to their partners at first. Get real. Guys have been in and out of your life and it always turned out into a disaster. You’re chasing after men that don’t want you and NT men aren’t a great choice for us.”

[ProbablyClueless]

Do you think there’s any merit in what she’s saying?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[ProbablyClueless]

Do you think anything she’s saying is true, or that any of the advice she’s giving makes sense?

[Asker]

The advice is good but I’m just saying. Did you see the part when I said I don’t want to give him false hopes?

[ProbablyClueless]

I did see that. I think you’re raising a good point. Unfortunately there are a lot of guys who get weird when women turn them down after a date.

I was just curious to know more about your perspective.

[MasterKS]

They acting assholes, its your life and your choice no matter what.

[Asker]

Thank you! It’s my fucking life

[MasterKS]

@asker No, its upto you how to take your life. change it.

[DishLady]

Bc she sees he likes you.

[Asker]

I don’t care. Why can’t he just give other women a chance and stop chasing me. I’m not his girlfriend and I’m not his woman. My parents may be disappointed that I May turned him down but it’s my choice.

[Mariogirl09]

Honestly... you should only because he chooses you. Why go for other people who arnt choosing you?

[MasterKS]

@Mariogirl09 what does it makes the difference?

[Asker]

I’m not giving my guy friend false hopes by dating him if I don’t have feelings for him. Love is a two way street not a one way steeet.

[Anonymous]

You’ve asked this question at least 3 or 4 times , please stop spamming us