I developed a crush on this guy I work with and from the moment I did I told my sister all about it. She’s like my best friend and I trust and love her that much. At first, it was a casual crush. Then we started to engage in conversation. We have started off learning little things about each other. We both light up with smiles when we see each other and always give each other a hug. Our conversations are natural. I even got him to start watching a show I recommend him to watch and now we have something more to talk about when we see each other. Even one of my other co workers, when I told her that he was the guy I liked and pointed him out to her, she even noticed the way he interacted with me and said “You can tell he has a crush on you too.” I will sometimes joke to sister and say “I saw my man today.” “Me and my man talked about etc etc today.” And she’ll laugh and call me delusional and I’ll laugh too because I know he isn’t really my man. Her saying that isn’t what got me down. What got me down was when I mentioned to her that I think he likes me too and how another co worker said he has a crush on me as well, she laughed and still told me it was all in my head and right after saying that she mentioned how a guy she works with, is always on her “tip” and how he basically told her he can teach her things in bed. It sounds like he just wants sex and my sister says that’s all she wants as well which is fine but why is it so hard for her to believe that a guy actually likes me for me and not sex but if she says a guy is all on her “tip” off back, it’s not in her head and it’s true.
Why can’t my sister accept the fact that a guy may genuinely like me for me?
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Yo sis, sorry your friend is being so dismissive of your crush. From the sounds of it, she might be a little jealous or insecure deep down. Here's what I think is really going on:
Your boy at work clearly likes you too - multiple people see the vibes between you! The easy laughs, finding little things to bond over, huggin when you greet - all signs of natural chemistry.
But your sis probably hates to see you catching feelings. She wants to be the hot one all guys want for sex. So she puts you down to make herself feel better. "It's all in your head" is classic hater talk.
Fact is just cuz one guy wants your friend for sex, doesn't mean your dude doesn't genuinely like YOU. Don't let her projection get you down - trust what you and others see with your own eyes.
Next time she tries to rain on your parade, shut it down nicely. "I hear you, but I'm sure what I see with him. No need to keep making jokes - just be happy for me!"
You deserve to gush about a crush without judgment. Focus on your boo and keep winning girl! The haters can't steal your shine.
Depends on your sister but certainly jealous you might get a boyfriend while all she can do is friends with benefits.
My sister is that way also just gets bad guys while I'm married to an amazing guy!
It's her she is mad at but just pushes those feelings onto you!
This will probably get worse as you and him get closer.