Why does my friend who calls me her “sister” told me I’ll never find a good guy?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been single for years because I focused on work and studies.
I was with her through thick and thin and now she’s finally getting married to her high school sweetheart.

I genuinely prayed for them to last together and it happened.

But she stabbed my heart by constantly telling me, now it’s your turn to get married so what kind of a guy do you want?

I said just a good normal guy, because money or luxury do not matter to me.

She replied “you have the most basic and bland choice but still you’ll never find one”.

Like what’s wrong with her? She got the love of her life, her ideal partner and she only brought this marriage topic while I was just minding my own business.

Why so much negativity for me if she already is getting married to her true love? I don’t understand.
That too this hate coming from someone who claims herself to be “sensitive, empathetic, my sister and caring”.

What I and others have observed that :

She has a bad habit to control people and loves to interfere with people’s personal life.
She loves to give unsolicited advice and can’t see anyone being too carefree.

Is this the reason for her negativity?

Updates

10 mo

Also I’m just 21 and she’s 27. She suddenly brought this marriage topic out of nowhere. I was just being happy, enjoying exploring and attending a nice event. She suddenly started to give me unsolicited advice regarding my career, hobbies and then out of nowhere started discussing that “I should get married too” and then said “you have a basic choice but still will never find one”.

[Anonymous]

I don’t mean to sound too rude but with that attitude of hers she’ll be divorced in no time lol. I’ve noticed that people’s true colors usually come out either right before or after their wedding, even after their engagement as well. That’s why some couples break up not too long after their engagement lol. Don’t allow her to belittle you in any way, what is meant for you will come to you in the perfect time. If you’d like to detach from being her friend, I would recommend it. If that may not be possible then you can lessen communication a bit. Since you said she’s a bit controlling, chances are that she may never actually see how she’s wrong, it’ll just stress you out more trying to tell her it doesn’t sit right with you. You can try though! I’ve had friends like that and I regret not cutting them off sooner than I did. They’ll just keep finding other areas of life to give you unwanted advice and compare.

[Sanser]

Same opinion, that kind of people tend to divorce because always see in others things better than the ones she has... so uts matter of time she will look to other men instead of her husband...

[Asker]

Thank you so much, your words and advice means a lot to me. No, you are not being rude but only speaking facts that you have observed. I should cut her off because it’s not fair to project hate and negativity on people who only wished them well.

[Sanser]

She sounds like she's jealous of you or something. I'm going to tell you something that you already know, having basic standards will ALWAYS make you happier. Who the hell says that to a friend? Don't worry, go on with your life and enjoy. May she continue with her high standards and see how life treats her...

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Shamalien]

Fuck that bitch cut her out of your life

I’m serious. She’s milking your energy in a dark way. Hard to explain but trust me, cut her off cold turkey. 100% block and ignore don’t try and be a saint, SHE is the reason you would stay alone

[Shamalien]

And you know what, you WILL find a good guy, better than her, because you are a better person. Good guys are not attracted to trash like your friend.

[Asker]

Thank you buddy :)

[MementoMori777]

thats foul, its said that getting with a lover shows your true colors, it definitely seems to be that case here, dont listen to her tho, your mindset is basic and healthy and its wonderful mindset, you'll definitely get someone thinking this way, the more preferences you add, the harder it gets to find someone so what she said isn't even logical and definitely not worth taking to heart, she's not a real friend if she treats you this way after supporting her every step of the way.

[Greenbean27]

She isn't your friend. She likely thinks you're prettier than her and is envious of that. With you being single and her being married, she may fear you homewrecking her.

[Asker]

I think she’s unsatisfied because she wants a better looking guy and is bored with her guy for years.

[RyanK9b]

Sure she's being mean on purpose?
First of all this sounds just like a good advice.
Second she is zhe biological clock phase.
Partying or career focused lifestyle isn't good for most of women.
She has experience and knows now what really counts.

[pethouse]

Bruh your 21? You have plenty of time, maybe she’s upset that you were less picky then she is and is slowly regretting her marriage?

[Asker]

True. That doesn’t mean she gets to wish bad for and intend to hurt those who did nothing bad to her.

[pethouse]

Yeah some people are like that. You can always tell that someone is insecure when they try to make other people insecure

[DarkWinterNights]

I think it’s actually a bad thing to keep encouraging young people by saying you have plenty of time, because meeting people and having children doesn’t get easier as you get older. And most older people without kids regret not having kids. Maybe her friend is just trying to push her to get out of her comfort zone?

[RealMarek]

Some people are cynical. Don’t let her attitude drag you down.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a jealous and spiteful human being.

[Asker]

I was really hurt and she even knew about my struggling mental health since past 1 year. She knows I’ve been through mental and emotional abuse. She only appears to be empathetic because she has her fair share of problems too. But suddenly she started to attack me, my personal life and my career, despite knowing that I wasn’t in a good place mentally. But yeah thank you for your input.

[Opinion Owner]

Time to end that friendship.

[cosmosis181]

That sure as hell wouldn't be any friend of mine, I CAN PROMISE YOU THAT.☝️

[ProbablyClueless]

This is really a question you should ask her. I'm sure she has observed some reason that you might be defeating yourself

[Luckycharms12]

Jealous in ways of you. And girls can be very bitchy

[slatyb]

Why is she still your friend? She's not a friend.

[Asker]

I don’t consider her anymore after how she’s been constantly interfering with my personal life and telling me how to live or what to do.

[FunkyMonkee]

Girls are NOTORIOUS for having shit taste in men!!

[Drewtate]

she's unhappy in her own life

[shades777]

cuz she's a hater