I am in a tough situation, I’m in a city I hate, working remote and I’m lonely, not sure what next steps are?

[Anonymous]

So last year I moved across the country for my ex. My company agreed that I could work remote for my relationship. We broke up 6 months later and my company doesn’t know. But I know they really want me to move back. I don’t know anyone here and there aren’t any companies in my field in the area. My company has been cracking down on working remote and I think that it’s just a matter of time before I am asked to move back.

I loved where I used to live, but I wasn’t paid enough to live there, the cost of living was some of the highest in the nation. And even though I hate it here, where I moved for my ex, the cost of living is much lower, and I’m finally able to make/save money. I would love to move back but I can’t until I get a promotion/raise, and I’ve worked there for 10 years with only one promotion. So it’ll be difficult.

I don’t want to make any friends here or start a relationship because I pretty much know I have to move one way or another. But no other companies are hiring and I can’t afford to just up and move or quit.

I am on dating sites, and I am really lonely and really want to start dating again, but since my future is so unknown, I don’t want to start anything…what should I do? I’ve never felt more trapped and alone in my life. I’m scared to let my company know we broke up because they may force me back or fire me, since I pretty much need a raise in order to move back. I desperately don’t want to be alone, but I don’t want to go through the exact same drama that happened with my ex, with her moving away relatively early in our relationship. And with the job market the way it is, and I’m in a highly competitive field, very few companies are hiring and wether I like it or not, I’m very hard to replace at my company. I just don’t want to feel trapped anymore.

[Clear_Skies10]

If you can't afford to live where you used to even with this job, it kinda sounds like you're gonna be forced to quit if they make you move back. You may have to let them know your problem so they understand that there's a money issue to keep you. Otherwise you may have to find a new job and just live in this current area where you can afford to have a life.

[Iron_Man]

it sounds like you better move back because you’re actually saying the words hate. And you broke up anyway six months ago and nothing has been resolved. Seek out better employment or seek out a pay raise

[Nikki1989]

Man up and stop posting anon would help.