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My fiancé keeps criticizing my body. He says I need to lose more weight and get laser and do something different with my hairstyle, etc. But then he also desires and wants me physically. We both don’t believe in pre-marital but he has stared and touched and expressed what he wants when he is in the mood. Not sure what to make of this. When he criticizes basically everything, it seems like he isn’t attracted to me and doesn’t want me but then he also acts very different when he is in the mood and he still wants to marry me so it is very confusing. I am working on myself as much as I can — I work out every other day at 5am, I follow the calorie deficits, I am working on laser — but he feels like I’m not doing it fast enough. And I don’t think I’m hideous or he wouldn’t want to marry me and I wouldn’t have multiple people interested but he still berates perpetually and at this point, I am starting to hate myself so just trying to get some clarity on his behavior to try and rationalize. Is this a normal behavior?

28F, I have had no luck on dating apps for the years I’ve been on and off them. I dated someone briefly for a few months back when I was 23, it just wasn’t a good experience. Since then I refuse to settle for anyone again, I think I am genuinely unlucky. I was bullied as a kid up to HS, some of my family wasn’t any better. I struggled with my weight & when I was 23 I lost a good amount of it, I’m the same weight now for the most part. I didn’t get any more attention, weight loss results in a lot of attention for people. You’d think as a woman it’s easier & I think it is for most but not me. Funny thing is I’m told I’m cute/attractive by people (not only by family) but guys never approach me in person. I’m not a friendly person which is why I use the apps, I get matches but in the end it doesn’t work out for all the reasons you can think of. I told myself at 26 if I’m in the same position we have a problem, 2 years later & I think it’s time to throw the towel. I think for a while I’ve become more & more disinterested in using them too, maybe I go through phases? Most people are taken, married & have kids at my age, it’s not meant to be if it hasn’t happened for me yet in my opinion.