Is there even a hope for me?

[CSFan]

I'm 18. I have never had a girlfriend. I was bullied and I'm still bullied in school. I'm bullied in front of girls. I workout more than a year but still can't lose weight and gain muscle. Girls never liked me back, the girls I like always have a boyfriend or something similar. When I see girls I see all of them as inaccessible, unachievable and impossible to get. I think that girls are a higher level than me and that they are superior to me. This year I'm going to college. I feel like it will be the same there. Many people say that things in college change but I think this is an exception for me. I believe that girls will continue to not notice me in college. I'm also shy and socially awkward. Some days I believe that one day I will find love and some days I give up on love and try not to even think about it. Is there even a hope for me in college or in other places?

[DizzyDesii]

I can almost guarantee college will be better, especially if you choose to live off campus. So many people go just to go to class and they go home. The majority are truly too focused on their own problems to bully someone. I dealt with female bullies in elementary and high school but I had a way with the boys and many great friendships with them. Got to college and omg just a blessing. So many mature people. The closest things to bullies in college is the office where you have to register stuff because they’re always grumpy, and then certain professors. I can't believe some of them still had a job, they were so rude. But classmates wise, you’d be 18/19 sharing courses with people ranging 17 to 70. So many more friendly folks and i have high hopes for you. I truly wish you the best. Think positive. And again, live OFF campus so you have an escape when you dont want to attend on campus activities and such

[CSFan]

Yeah, I hope so. But I really need to find someone to love. But that seems impossible. I have asked girls out before but they always rejected me. I'm afraid to ask girls nowadays. I was rejected or found out the girl I like has a boyfriend over 12 times the last years. I have never even kissed or held hands with a girl. In my school and town the girls date 20+ old guys while they are around 14-16. I have a small beer belly that causes me self-esteem issues. I go to the gym and workout more than a year ago but with no results. I see all, I mean ALL the girls in the world as superior to me. I can't even imagine some girl liking me. I feel like this is impossible.

[DizzyDesii]

Focus on courses your first semester and then the second, try it out with the girls. You’ll mostly find em at sporting events. We always intend those pretending to enjoy the games but honestly just admiring the boys and wanting someone to ask for our number 🤣 Also, okay so you’ve worked out but what do you eat? Even if you choose to eat the same stuff, put down all the beverages that aren't water. Drink your 6-8 cups or bottles a day and watch the gut slim up. You still have to lift weights to tone it though. I learned the hard way that its strength training that will tighten stuff, not cardio (running, biking)

[RagnarRedbeard]

You’re only 18, you’ve got time.

There’s hope for you if you work on these problems and you want it bad enough. A lot of this can be learned.

You’re lifting weights, and that’s good. Keep at it, never stop. If you’re not making progress there there’s a problem with your diet and/or your training. You just need to figure out what’s going wrong there.

You’re being bullied how? You need to also start training in a martial art/combat sport. Learn how to fight and defend yourself physically. That will build your confidence in asserting yourself whether verbally or physically. Men will also fuck with you less anyway because your entire demeanour will change.

Shyness and social awkwardness you work on by forcing yourself to be more social. There’s no other way around it.

[FireGodGoesSeeknFire]

How much of an issue is your weight, leaving aside the difficulties gaining muscle?

[CSFan]

My weight is 147 lbs (67 kg) and my height is very short - around 5'6. Girls don't like short and bullied guys like me.

[gorydetails]

So get your passport. Save up a few hundred bucks, head down to Colombia and bang some hookers. It will get you over being shy and awkward. Because they don’t care. They’re inexpensive, and you’ll have fun.

[slatyb]

Yes. It gets better. If you can, get some counseling.

[CSFan]

I am already on therapy. Not only for anxiety and depression, but also for my OCD. I don't think that any girl would like to date someone who drinks over 5 pills for his OCD every day.

[slatyb]

You think there aren't women similarly situated?

[Iron_Man]

You are only 18 you’re just starting out in life you’ll be fine

[CSFan]

Not really. I have no chance with any girl in the world.

[Iron_Man]

Just keep exercising you’ll be fine

[tesniolite]

you'll live