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I have known my friend Rich since 3rd grade. We grew up together but took different career paths. I went to college and got a degree in business. I got an alright job, but nothing to get excited about. Rich screwed around. He took the first job that was offered to him as a favor from a friend. He hated it and complained every day. By his own admission, he was terrible and close to being fired a few times. He did the bare minimum and cut corners whenever possible. He was also one foot out the door always. Then a different company was in desperate need of a logistics manager, and they did not know his work ethic. All they knew was he had enough experience, and he knew all the lingo to ace the job interview. By his own admission, he conned them into believing he was something he isn't.
I was happy 4 him. I believed he would straighten up, and it would be good for him. He didn't change and was a terrible manager, his words. He would talk badly about his employees to me and curse them for doing things he would do himself. He would hide and sleep on the job or get caught up on Netflix, or take an hour of work and turn it into his whole day. Still, he complained constantly and talked about how bad the company is. He felt justified because they were terrible in his eyes. He also constantly complained about leaving.
Now, he has lucked into the same opportunity. A new company is looking for a senior logistics manager, and he fits their needs based on his experience and his LinkedIn profile, which is made entirely of lies. He was just talking about quitting and, and now he is acting like he is a prestigious senior manager. He admits that this is undeserving, but he will still expect me to make a big deal of it and take him out for a drink. I don't think he at all deserves this, and I am kind of disgusted that he keeps lucking into these promotions. But what are my options? Do I have to just pretend to be happy for him, or can I get away with just a congratulations and drop it?

Lets say a male is dating another male... but that person is converting to a different gender... whom knows which one.

That can be really messed up if the first male didn't know the other other wanted to change in the first place, causing sexual frustrations. They may be confused themselves on their gender identity... maybe they should switch too, causing the other to lose interest?

Add to it, the person they are dating could be putting an emotional burden on them about how people don't like trans people and they call trans people mentally ill. Hurting the feelings of the partner might invoke the first person to fits of hatred and rage... pride... enough to do harm to others.

It all seems nuts, but in this mindset, it seems they may act out... and feel good about what they did.. because they are confused and kind nutty in the first place. Maybe they kill someone to defend the honor of their gender changing mate? It be justified to some to silence the voice harming the one they care for, might even feel good about it, but later, confused. People have been known to kill on command from others. doesn't' take much.

Lastly, do you think such people caught up in such gender, sexual, and relational confusions might possibly... have mental illnesses lurking? Like... some deeper issues that distort reality?

It's girls ask guys... so seems a valid psychological question.

It strikes me... without a reference point for what is sane, it's difficult to have that... sanity...

It's all conjecture...