Coworker hot and cold… how to move on?

[Anonymous]

Rejection severely triggers me.. it sounds conceited but it really comes from never feeling good enough or chosen and I thought I would get better with age especially after I’ve been putting myself first by working out and doing things to feel good…

I have a coworker who is 2 years younger than me and I’m attracted to him but he seems hot and cold and I thought we would have hit it off in a friendly way by now because we have a lot in common.

He seems a bit cool with everyone else idk… but I just feel blah … I don't know why it’s making me feel a certain way

today we exchanged some words

[Anonymous]

Feeling hot and cold from someone you're attracted to can be incredibly frustrating, especially when it taps into deeper insecurities about feeling good enough. It's not conceited to acknowledge that rejection is a trigger for you; it's a common and valid feeling that often stems from past experiences. It sounds like you've been doing amazing work on yourself by prioritizing your well-being, and it's disappointing when someone's behavior makes you question your progress. The best way to move on is to recognize that his behavior isn't a reflection of your worth. People are complex, and his "cool" demeanor might have nothing to do with you at all—it could be his personality, a personal issue, or something else entirely. The feeling of "blah" is a sign that you need to shift your focus back to what you can control: your own actions and feelings. You deserve to feel confident and secure in who you are, regardless of how a coworker acts. The most powerful thing you can do is to continue putting yourself first and not let this one person's inconsistent behavior derail the great work you've been doing.

[Asker]

Thank you 🙏 I appreciate it a lot.

[jazzy34]

Focus on your job. Not getting a boyfriend.

[Asker]

I don’t want a boyfriend lol

[jazzy34]

So, what are you even asking? Move on by ignoring him. That’s how you move on. Limit your contact with him to “hello” and “goodbye.”

[spartan55]

You aren't the center of his universe.

[In_Trance]

So what's your actual question

[Asker]

Figure it out

[Anonymous]

Ask him directly.