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There’s a guy I met online 6 years ago that lives in England. We dated long distance for a few months before he wanted to end things due to mental health. Throughout the next few years, we don’t talk much besides here and there like when he wishes me a happy birthday. We reconnected more last year and things were going great. We texted and called more often to sharing a British show to watch together. We disconnected again since he got busy with school a little but reconnected earlier this year (mid-June). We texted still, and he disclosed that he wanted a future with me by promising each other that we would see one another within the next couple of years. I was fine with it since I had nothing to lose, and he seemed to be ready for a beginning with me finally.

however, over time, his texts seemed to get a little more rude and disinterested. I didn’t talk about it since last I asked about him being sure about us, he got turned off. Last night, he disclosed that he wanted to put the relationship on “pause” since he’s starting a job that’ll require more effort but also didn’t even see the point of being with me due to not liking me anymore romantically. Also, not having the “funds” anymore for us meeting up. I was confused since the promise was made somewhat recently, and makes me believe he wanted to just not be alone rather than enjoy being alone. I’m not sure..

either way, I told him if he ends the relationship now that he won’t have a chance with me in the future since I’m not some revolving door that’s at his disposal for his convenience to which he understood. I’m not sure what to do about this ordeal or how to feel about it besides hating that he’s basically wasted at least a couple of years of my time knowing he was unsure anyway. What do you think?

I couldn't pursue my crush for two years because of workplace consequences. But we would jam and play music together every week. In June, I told him I was leaving. A while later, he invited me to his music recital. About a week later, we said bye and I told him I would be at his recital. I waited anticipatedly and anxiously. For some reason I felt like this recital would be a turning point for us. I bought a big gift and I just waited for the day. Sometime last month I sent him an email but didn't receive a reply, even though he usually replied. I don't have his number but he has mine. Today was finally the day. After his first song, we got to go to the stage to hand flowers and gifts to the performers, so I gave him the large gift I had prepared. He seemed happy/surprised I'd come. Maybe he didn't need me to be there... Once the show was all over, he came to my seat to chat with me. It seems there was some miscommunication about my leaving the workplace, and he thought I'd simply disappeared. Clearly, he'd also missed my email. His family then came to us, and I greeted them. His parents, grandmother, and brother (who also performed.) I wanted to talk to him more, but I didn't want to disturb family time. We bumped into each other outside later again, and we kind of kept looking at each other as we left in different directions, him with his family. Just now I emailed him the pics from the performance, writing that he was great and looked cool. Sadly, I don't have his number. How am I supposed to proceed from here? I don't even know if he thought of me at all till today.