Hi, I dated a guy this past year who intimidated me a lot when I met him. However, I really tried my best to be brave, open up, laugh, and be myself to come out of my shell. However, after a few months of dating he just became really reserved (I think it was his true personality). He would barely touch me (just an occasional peck goodbye), and would text me every day, but only wanted to see me about once or twice a week. He was just a really, cool, reserved guy. He also wasn't into cuddling whatsoever, and almost never wanted me to sleep over bc he wanted his own space. Super frustrating. But he would always meet me with logic if I ever brought up an issue.
So halfway through the relationship, I suddenly got extremely anxious. I wouldn't initiate physical contact bc I was so awkward around him, I would have crossed arms around him whenever I was with him, I couldn't really speak much, and didn't know what to do. I started developing panic attacks and breathing issues at night when I went home. He never changed much, and it was hard to bring up issues bc I didn't really know what was going on. He never really changed his behavior (would only give me an "aw" and a shoulder hug if I was feeling anxious), and when I finally brought up that I needed more from him, he politely broke up with me the next week.
He told me that we weren't getting any closer and I was too quiet, and that he couldn't do a relationship right now and didn't see a future with me. Which makes no sense bc I feel like I barely bothered him at all?
Why did he do this and is this normal for some guys behavior? I admit I do get nervous sometimes, but I'm usually able to talk myself out of anxious episodes. I feel ashamed of myself for not sticking up more.
My friends have all told me he's dating around now a lot on dating apps. I'm just mad because he didn't even work with me at all and now he's dating again around. Thanks for advice in advance!
