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29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.

TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?

Hi everyone

I'm hoping to get some outside perspective on a situation with a guy I used to work with, as I feel I might be overthinking things. There's been a spark between us, but I'm unsure if it's mutual. Here are some details:

1. **Post-Work Interactions**: We often spent time together after everyone else had left, and he would walk me home, lingering a bit.

2. **Attention to Details**: He remembered small details about me, but I wonder if this is just part of his intelligent and observant personality.

3. **Eye Contact and Body Language**: He often gave prolonged eye contact, making me feel drawn in. He also mirrored my posture at the table.

4. **Subtle Physical Contact**: When sitting close, our knees would touch, and he wouldn’t move away. His body would be angled towards me, though he never sat extremely close.

5. **Mixed Messages**: He mentioned going on dates with others, walks at my pace, and has never inquired about my dating life. His messages are usually short, and we mostly meet in group settings.

6. **Personal Insecurities**: I’ve often felt like the 'ugly duckling' or second choice, so I’m unsure if I’m misinterpreting his friendliness as interest.

7. **Shared Interests**: We have a lot in common, and I've tried initiating light physical touches, which he responds to with laughter, but he doesn’t initiate similar actions.’

Im seeking your kind and considerate advice to help interpret these signs. Do you think there might be a romantic interest on his part, or am I reading too much into these interactions? Any insights or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. we

Thank you!