29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.
TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?
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I felt I was ready my auto biography lol
that sucks! I understand all of this so perfectly. And I also have no idea what to think.
mall my life people have said like I’m so pretty and even many girls copying how I dress or do my hair and want to know what I do to my skin etc which sin nothing special in my opinion and even little girls saying people want to BE like ME!
but yet the only guys that have ever approached me have always been guys I’m not even slightly attracted to..
yet I do have to confess I almost never go out. I also work from home and I don’t even go on dating sites.
a lot of guys will turn their heads to look at me even some that I’m attracted to but never get approached by them.
map at the end I’m like you am I ugly? Or what the heck.. I’m also shy and quiet but people can’t know that from afar watching so why don’t I get approached by people I’m actually attracted to I don't know and now that I read you, I realize I’m not the only one.. I used to think I was.
Is there something wrong with us 😐
I also look much younger than other people my age. And one time this guy what I was attracted to mentioned that he didn’t talk to me because he thought I was 16.. but when he found out my real age he was already with someone. :/
I also don’t have friends and all the family members my age have a husband already so they don’t even go out with me.. and it’s hard to find single people my age so we can go out together and fish! Lol as they say
I can’t even give any input in your situation , I simply commented here to vent of how much I can relate to how you might feel. You’re about 8 years younger than me, I hope you find someone before then!
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