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I will say I’m unlucky, I don’t think dating is this hard for the average person. In fact, most people have it easy as long as they’re attractive. Since I’ve been on dating apps on and off for years, that’s the only way I’ve met people but I just never catch a break. The one time I saw someone short term, it felt like settling because no one else gave me attention & he wasn’t physically attractive to me but treated me okay. I always get pursued by the ones I don’t want, if they’re attractive they’re dicks or there’s no connection OR if they’re good looking but decent personality they’re too short for me.

Sometimes the guys on dating apps message and we speak for a little while, but things fizzle out. Out of no where in some cases, they reach out again and come across as unstable or a total asshole wanting to rub something in my face. Look at last post, is this standard of dating apps or am I unlucky?

I really don’t have a desire to be social and meet people in person, it’s so hard to make friends. I’ve never met someone through a friend like most have, I don’t know if even having a dating app profile is worth it. I’ve even tried bumble but it didn’t change my luck, I wanted to be more in control.

27F I will say I’m unlucky, I don’t think dating is this hard for the average person. In fact, most people have it easy as long as they’re attractive. Since I’ve been on dating apps on and off for years, that’s the only way I’ve met people but I just never catch a break. The one time I saw someone short term, it felt like settling because no one else gave me attention & he wasn’t physically attractive to me but treated me okay. I always get pursued by the ones I don’t want, if they’re attractive they’re dicks or there’s no connection OR if they’re good looking but decent personality they’re too short for me.

Sometimes the guys on dating apps message and we speak for a little while, but things fizzle out. Out of no where in some cases, they reach out again and come across as unstable or a total asshole wanting to rub something in my face. Look at last post, is this standard of dating apps or am I unlucky?

TL; DR: Typical with dating apps or just bad luck in love?

I always thought that the good guys would appreciate a girl that doesn’t come with a lot of baggage. I’ve only had sex and dated one guy, lol I haven’t had sex since and this was over 3 years ago. I feel the opportunity could have happened but I really just don’t have the urge to sleep around. I live alone, I could have had guys over. People say that I’m just a square but I just don’t have the urge. But sometimes I think screw it, I should try to live it up because I’m on the road to being a spinster anyway. I want a quality guy but really guys don’t give me the time of day, I’m told I’m attractive, few of you agreed. But I don’t get approached in person, I’ve tried dating apps only but have not had any luck besides the last guy I dated. Quite frankly, nothing was lucky about that. I felt like I was settling physically and would have preferred to remain a virgin. I don’t care if I never have sex again, I would like a quality guy though. Don’t want kids either, I just worry years down the line I will feel regret for being so antisocial and living an uneventful life. But I just can’t wrap my head around why the kind of guy I want wouldn’t have come around yet, most educated attractive women have no issue getting a date.

My uncle got very drunk once and during and argument with my aunt in front of other relatives, said something along the lines:
''I fucking sacrificed my freedom for you, sacrificed it all. I did it all for you. You're not ok with my dislike in worthless travel trips but I had to accept settling down with you and form a family. You fucking won. I never wanted any of that.''

I can’t help but let this bring my self esteem down. Most people I know my age are seeing someone or if they’re not, they have previous LTRs. The longest I saw a guy was for a few months back when I was 23 and quite frankly, I should have stayed single and a virgin. He had a decent personality but he wasn’t my preference physically and it felt like settling. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m attractive (not only by family/female friends), you all gave me a good rating for the most part. I just refuse to settle, I only have used dating apps but it’s worked for a lot so that shouldn’t be a deal breaker. How could someone go this long being single? All I can get are the ones that I’m not really into, if they check my boxes physically, they lack in personality or they’re the ones that aren’t into me. Regardless of how this makes me feel, since most women have it very easy, I’d rather be alone than taken and even more miserable.