Why does my friends with benefits not take the hint I don't want to keep sending nudes anymore?

[Anonymous]

I decided I had enough settling for this one particular causual relationship I started with a guy in 2017 when I was traveling the states. I ignored in October but I could see that he was reaching out to me through email pretending to know how I was and what I was up to I fell for it and again he's asking for nudes. Put of the 4 years I've known him all he gave me was severe mixed singles saying he wanted something more then he would change his mind and asking if I wanted to life together...

[Wise4myage]

Dumping and blocking him would send the right message.

[Asker]

I just sent him this: After thinking about it yesterday I feel like it's just going back to these nudes again. It's not something I want to get back into anymore. It was fun a few years ago but I'm just in a different mindset now.

The he replied with: meh, sure

But yet he was begging and apologising through email to get back in touch and he makes out he doesn't care 🤣🤣 yeah sure

[Wise4myage]

He’s trying to deflect how hurt he feels.

[Asker]

🤣🤣 so over it now

[Wise4myage]

Awesome, wish you the best.

[Asker]

Not sure why he wondered if I was moving back to the states. That's where he lives

[cookiecrusher]

Maybe try telling him that, just ignoring him after all these years and playing mind reader games. Why? Just tell him.

[jahaims]

The only point of your relationship is sex what do you expect

[BarryLiverstone]

What are the hints you gave him?

[Asker]

I've already told in 2018 I was interested he said he didn't have feelings for me. But then a few weeks later seemed like he did. I never took him seriously after that

[Asker]

Tired of this off and on crap. I can easily block him I have no feelings for him for now he's too late

[BarryLiverstone]

Wow that’s a long time ago. I wonder why he keeps emailing you if you last sent nudes 4 years ago?

[Asker]

I mean we did back and forth since 2017 summer until last year. I was a fool to do it. But it entertained me either way because I was bored

[BarryLiverstone]

I see. Well that’s the answer then. Because you have been bored and continue to reply when he reaches out then he continues reaching out. Unless your nudes have gotten bad he will keep up the pattern. Why aren’t you bored these days?

[Asker]

I'm 29 now need to get a grip and look for a real partner

[BarryLiverstone]

At 29 what are some things you need that he can’t provide?

[Asker]

I just sent him this: After thinking about it yesterday I feel like it's just going back to these nudes again. It's not something I want to get back into anymore. It was fun a few years ago but I'm just in a different mindset now.

The he replied with: meh, sure

But yet he was begging and apologising through email to get back in touch and he makes out he doesn't care 🤣🤣 yeah sure

[BarryLiverstone]

I know why he said that

[Asker]

Why?

[BarryLiverstone]

He knows you will not block him

[Asker]

But I did block him for 3 months

[BarryLiverstone]

Exactly. You didn’t stay away. So you showed him that he can not respect you and has power over you

[Asker]

He must of been panicking tho because I wasn't answering the fmsils right away and made a fake email address

[BarryLiverstone]

He did what?

[Asker]

He made a fake email address to contact me because I wasn't replying to his other ones

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok that doesn’t make sense based on what you have shared so far. Hmm, feels like there is more to this story to me. How do you feel?

[Asker]

I just gee tired the casual relationship back in October so I blocked him. Then in December I saw he wrote an email to me but I ignored it and then I noticed he wrote an email on the 3rd of January apologising I still ignored it tho and then just 2 days he made that fake email

[Asker]

Grew tired**

[BarryLiverstone]

You must still have some feelings because otherwise you would have simply deleted the email in December. When did you last see him irl?

[BarryLiverstone]

Actually sorry, this is going beyond just answering a q

[Asker]

Haven't seen him in real life since 2020 August we don't live in the same country now

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh so wonder why he reaches out

[Asker]

Yeah it's weird I have no idea either

[BarryLiverstone]

Think he has some emotions?

[Asker]

He should get someone where he lives

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s weird is he asks you for nudes when he could find them online. Are yours that good?

[Asker]

They must be but I am good shape from the gym

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh the gym, yep I see fit girls there often

[Joker_]

Send nudes to me instead

[boobliker]

have you told them?

[Asker]

In 2018 I asked him if he wanted something more after he was showing sings he was interested he turned me down. It was so on and off I gave up

[Asker]

Signs**

[boobliker]

do you both enjoy the sex? if yes, then keep as is - - - if Not then say it's over!

[Asker]

I just sent him this: After thinking about it yesterday I feel like it's just going back to these nudes again. It's not something I want to get back into anymore. It was fun a few years ago but I'm just in a different mindset now.

The he replied with: meh, sure

But yet he was begging and apologising through email to get back in touch and he makes out he doesn't care 🤣🤣 yeah sure