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Just to note that not giving someone attention when you never been romantically involved with them to begin with isn’t “mistreating” them. Some people feel that way but I don’t.

But I do feel mistreated when women are rude, freeloading, bitchy for no legit reason, gossiping negatively about me despite me never doing wrong to them to begin with.

I don’t do this to women I don’t find attractive unless they antagonize me first. I’m usually polite and friendly to them just out of general principle. And even if I know they are interested when I’m not I don’t automatically get “creeped” out about it (as long as they don’t do anything inappropriate). The way I look at it is attraction is not a choice but RESPECT is.

But I truly believe that women are generally far more disrespectful to men then vice versa when they don’t find them attractive regardless how the guy acts. Sure aggressive and rude creeps deserve to be shut out. But women will be rude if the guy they don’t like is even in their presence.

Its a very tough topic to talk about but I (26 M) sometimes do experience sexual harassment.

!! Before going further I do acknowledge that girls experience this from men as well and I do not want to deny this, I merely want to open up the conversation that it can go both ways!!

But when I talk about it with my friends they usually laugh it off because I'm a guy and specially female friends are like yeah I really doubt its close to what I'm experiencing.

Now with small stuff I'm not too bothered, like a girl when shouts like take me home with you when I'm out is kinda funny and easy to brush off. Although there are things that go too far. One example is that when I arrive at a gym I have girls staring at me and aggressively trying to take a peek when I'm changing clothes (it has subsides since I go there once or twice a day now and I'm quite a regular). This stuff does creep me out.

Also sometimes when I walk in jogging pants or something loose some girl will randomly grab my ass. This only happened twice in the last year but this really does cross a line.

The worst part is though that there is no right way to respond as a guy, if I get angry at her people will think im being aggressive to a helpless woman, and if I tell the truth people just stare in disbelief because I'm a man.

Now I will be honest that it's not the scariest thing to me since I don't go to clubs and I only drink water so getting something slipped in my drink is nearly impossible. I'm also physically stronger then 99% of other people I meet (men and women). But I worry since I have a girlfriend and we are extreemly prude with these things.

I wanted to ask for guys, have you ever experienced this and how do you deal with this? And for girls do you think this happens to guys and have you done it in the past?

And more importantly how to open up this conversation?