Should I feel bad for blocking guys after talking to them on a dating app?

[Monalisa77]

I just don't think it would work and or suspect their a creep. The last one moved here two years ago and wanted to get married this year... just thought he's probably going to be using whoever he ends up with so he can stay. Its only after a few messages

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4 mo

I spike to my brother about it and he said a lot of the men are out to use women.. So i dont think i should feel bad about that especially since I've got it on my profile

[Blazingfang]

I think ghosting someone is the same as turning your back on someone who is talking to you. It's just rude.

Ghosting is just cowardice. You don't have the nerve to say "hey, i'm sorry but i'm not interested".

If he continues, then yes, block him, since the rudeness is now on his side.

You cannot judge people without knowing them. If a man did nothing wrong, and is being considered as "probably a creep", that's childish.

A lot of man do "creep" stuff because they are nervous, or just don't know what to say.

Probably a lot of those men are husband material, but aren't given a fair chance.

My way of seeing things: say you are not interested, and the guys if decent, will appreciate the honesty, stop bothering you, and will be better guys in future interactions. Ghosting/blocking is a mind game, and creates trauma. Those guys will probably do the same to other girls before they do it to them.

Be the first domino piece of a string of great interactions between genders.

We don't need more butt-hurt Red pill jackasses due these behaviors.

[Monalisa77]

Tbf i do have it on my profile. One guy moved here two years ago and wanted to get married tjis year, u dont think it was the right call when he just wanted to make sure he could stay in the country?

Most of the men I've done it to want to meet straight away when i tell them that won't be happening and they still continue to presist.

[Monalisa77]

Its happened to me on this dating app and hasn't caused me trauma despite my many health issues

[Monalisa77]

My brother said most people use the apps to get their leg over too

[Monalisa77]

It takes me a lot of effort to even send msgs, to come up with a decent reason y im doing it would be even harder

[Blazingfang]

If they persist, yes you do block them.

Here's the thing, hear your brother, but don't let that cloud your judgement.

Most guys on dating apps want sex. Period.

I was once too in dating apps, but because my life situation didn't give room or time to meet people in other ways. And yes, i considered myself a great catch in the middle of creeps and fuckboys. And girls didn't give the shots i needed due these other guys. That and my dad jokes ahahaha.

Ask the right questions, tell them you are not interested, block them if they don't respect you. That shouldn't even be a question. They are harassing you.

Maybe try to change your search parameters on the dating apps.

PS: if you have photos of yourself in the dating apps on the beach or in bikini. Remove them. Decent men won't go looking for those profiles. Only those interested in your body.

[Monalisa77]

I put me in my bridesmaid dress one up and two other normal pics, im not like a typical girl who gets dressed up, hence y im using the app

[Blazingfang]

Then a normal guy will surely turn up

[NathanDavis]

well... either you do or you don't...

feeling bad should a genuine feeling, as much as other feelings

[Monalisa77]

Yes I do hence the q. Just i read about ghosting but I just dunno what to say to them

[NathanDavis]

if you think they're a creep... well, they probably are

I'd say don't feel that bad about it

[Anonymous]

No. When you block a guy you're making your feelings pretty clear. I don't care what a woman says or does as long as she's clear. There's 4 billion women on the planet. You're only one, next!

[Monalisa77]

see i agree in this instance but sometimes if its someone irl it can be more complicated

[Opinion Owner]

Well if you meet someone and then just block them out of the blue, no explanation then you are a chickens*** a**hole. My response was posted with that assumption that it had not progressed to that point.

[Opinion Owner]

Nobody likes rejection. Nobody likes rejecting. But you still gotta do it when necessary to be a stand up woman or guy.

[Monalisa77]

yeah i couldnt do it if i meet someone, im just checking its ok to block after a few messages

[OddBeMe]

No…but…

I think dating via apps isn’t really a thing. It’s picking based on very objective traits. But chatting with them can tell you a lot.

[Monalisa77]

my brother met his girlfriend via dating app and i knew someone else who met her boyfriend on one.

[OddBeMe]

And apps for meeting people are good…but “dating” is a process. I think that’s the disconnect. Peoplle are swinging right, when they should be doing the work of meeting them first.

[Monalisa77]

but u dont think i haven't tried to meet people irl? its hard enough making friends let alone trying to go out to meet guys...

[OddBeMe]

Oh sure and I didn’t mean you think I was calling you out. I think you’re a victim of the issue, people using dating apps like social media. Tinder could be a good initial ice-breaker where you then plan a meet. But I think the instant gratification or people believing a picture can defermine love are the problems.

[Monalisa77]

I only use the free one badoo. I was chatting to someone earlier who seemed okay and was like if we went on a date we could go play crazy golf then i went back on later he's deleted his profile

[OddBeMe]

That’s weird. No sex or weird touching on the date?

[Monalisa77]

I said if lol

[convo_king89]

Depends on why

[eagle1951]

yeah