Search Results: no sex in marriage

As in is open to dating anyone to get to know them as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend but is very strict with sex itself. So the dating is really about getting to know each other as people as potential boyfriend/boyfriend not seeking out sexual satisfaction.

this is not a biographical question... I’m just wondering why MANY people are against dating around like it’s dirty or indicative of low moral lack of loyalty increased risk of cheating etc, when really dating should give you a cushier to get acquainted

I wonder as well if casual dating people wpuid stay far away from those who are not on a date to sex pipe line.

And I Get it sex is a way for some people to get acquainted and that is fine but I’m guessing those people don’t feel sick about casual dating.

Seems to be high correlation with date around and fuck or date exclusively and wait camps... I wonder how often they can mix it up.


I think if I was single, I’d date around a ton lije 2950s style date a diff guy on a diff day bit the date is not code for hook up. It’s literally go out in a date. I kinda really LIKE the idea of like booking dates as appointments lol... 🧐 but then I am hyperactive am no good with ambiguity and I do best with structure 😌 so this may be more a personality thjng than sayjng approach. I’m thinking of sanity not landing the right bloke, per se 😇

So I've had a friend for about 5 years. we've had our differences, usually we work it out.

My "friend" has been living a train wreck of a life that she's kinda forced on herself.
I usually set aside the fact that I feel like she's made a bad decision and try to help her through it.

But for starters, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 19, three months into our relationship. We've now been together for 4 years and we JUST got engaged this past weekend.
When I told this friend that I'd had sex (she'd never done it before either), she got a little "cold". All she said was is "I just don't understand why it couldn't wait for marriage." And essentially kinda made me feel bad for not waiting.
I ignored her for a few weeks, then she messaged me about HER boyfriend was cheating on her pretty blatantly. He'd go WEEKS without even sending her a TEXT. Nothing at all. And then randomly send her pictures of some half naked woman. Just to hurt said friend. So I felt bad for her, tried to talk to her, and I told her she needed out of that relationship. I tried to put it delicately, since she was "so in love." And she then SHE stopped talking to me.
Fast forward like 2 weeks and she tells me she had sex with him so he would cheat. (He didn't stop.) Well now 3 years later, I'm engaged, have a great job, just living my best life really.
3 years later for her is, she has had a baby with her cheater boyfriend. Not married or engaged, neither of them has a job, they don't even live together. Still with their parents.

When I told her I was engaged though she just couldn't be happy. Her exact words were "well me and John could be married by now, but there's just no point since we knows left we love each other".
So admittedly I snapped and replied "well that's so great that you changed your mind after you shamed me for having sex then turned around and had a baby with a guy you don't even live with."
She Left me on read and honestly I have nothing to say to her. AITA?