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Many Latino men in the US chase and marry white women. Meanwhile, most of their own men, white men, would be able to write a short story on their worship of Latinas (and many do in online chatrooms) The very same women that Latino guys look over. Why are we so undesirable to you yet pursued by almost every other group at the expense of their own? When others see curves, do you just see fat? When others see exotic features, do you see something you're bored with because it's similar to your own face? When they see our romantic ways, do think we're just needy? What is 'spicy' to them is overrated to you? What is a rich olive complexion to them is not the ideal white to you? Many white guys will tell you, with zero disrespect to our beautiful white sisters, that in general they are bony in the wrong places, have nonexistent lips, thin hair and skin that has begun to age noticeably so by 21 (not my opinion). Are white women easier/promiscuous? Do you want to be white yourself? Are our personalities unbearable? Is it because many Latinas don't look like J. Lo?

He seems to really enjoy chatting with me and joking around with me, and seems very relaxed like he can say what he’s really thinking and knows I’m not judging him.
I get the feeling that he wants to get to know me better before having sex again or doing anything else physical. He also seems more relaxed around me after we had sex. I’ve noticed we mirror eachother and it’s like we are in synch with eachother, facial expressions etc. and we even have the same opinions on most things. This is odd because I thought guys usually just want sex?
I can tell he’s still very physically attracted to me because I adjusted my boob and he smiled and blushed and looked pretty turned on.

30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?