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my boyfriend and I have argued in the past over him not defending me against his family being racist, rude, or body shaming me. They’ve made racist jokes, made fun of my body, always say my name wrong, talk about other girls or his ex, and address me by talking to him (hey, Bf’s name, did OP eat before coming?”) or something along those lines as I stand RIGHT by him. I’ve made every effort with them to talk and be nice.
last time he didn’t defend me against a racist joke, he apologized and comforted me after like always but I told him that was the last chance he had.
Today his friend who I’m friends with but not nearly as closely as he is ‘jokingly’ called me flat and said I’m built like a board. He is usually pretty sarcastic and it’s hard to tell when he means it or not. After a few seconds where I didn’t laugh he said “sorry just kidding!!” And I didn’t say anything cause I’m at his/my bf’s house with my boyfriend and I didn’t know if I’d be overreacting. I’ve had many bad experiences of being bodyshamed and made fun of for being skinny and it’s really gotten to me over time. I expected my boyfriend to at least step in and say something guiding— not even outright confrontational— but something like “too far man”, But he didn’t. He just made a sad face at me and went back to scrolling on his phone.
I can’t tell if he just didn’t want to make things awkward for me, if he thought it wasn’t a big deal, or if he once again decided his security was more important than defending me. he definitely heard it happen.
so my questions are-
1: would you have said something if you were him? (I know I should’ve, I was just uncomfortable with it being his+bf’s apartment that I am staying at for tonight).
2: is this a big enough breach to warrant me upholding my “that was your last chance”?
im planning on talking about it with my boyfriend tomorrow no matter what but he fell asleep for now and his roommate is still up so I can’t talk about It with him at this time

I believe there is. But my issue is with people who feel the need to voice out the fact that they're "high value". When I hear people say that it's a complete turn off to me, because it comes off as arrogant. Sometimes it depends on the context, but it's still not nice to hear.
People know that from the energy you excude. People know that from the way you talk, dress, set boundaries etc.

Men and women calling themselves high value reminds me of those who call themselves Alpha male/woman lol. It's lame 😂

I wonder what other people think of marriage. And what type you would prefer.

I myself would like a contract marriage.
Or arranged.

I'm not good with emotions and showing them. So Im not able to connect easily with people when dating.
I could fall in love through time spent with an individual. So I don't need to like them right away to marry them.

It would be convenient and nice to marry someone like me. So that I'm just not alone in life. And we would have written arrangements of certain things we want out of the contract and if it isn't met then it's cause for divorce. Ya Id like that kinda marriage. But that's just me.

I know a lot of people will argue their points of why my mindset and opinion is wrong. I'm not interested in that. But I am interested to hear what you want in your own marriage.