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I know this kind of topic comes up a lot, but my situation has a twist.

About two years ago I matched with a girl on Tinder. We moved over to Messenger (because we both felt we vibed) pretty quickly and had long, positive conversations with a really good flow. After 4–5 days I suggested a phone call, and we exchanged numbers, though we never actually ended up calling.

Shortly after that she said she felt unsure about what she was doing, and the conversation slowly fell apart. Eventually she told me she didn’t want to continue talking, so I respected that and we went our separate ways.

Fast-forward to last weekend: she matched me again. She responded to my opening message with a friendly, genuine reply. She also said she remembered our previous conversations and that she found them fun. She asked questions back and kept the tone light.

I replied 1–2 hours later the same day.

Since then, it’s been around 40 hours with no response, and Tinder shows she hasn’t read my message yet.

If this were a completely fresh match, I’d assume a ghost and move on.
But this is someone where we already had compatibility and great rapport before.

So I’m curious; why do you think she chose to rematch with me after two years?
Even though she hasn’t replied yet, should I still assume it’s a ghosting situation, or is it different in a case like this?

Also, should I (see polls):

I happen to take this matter personally because of what happened to me.

When I was 20, I met this 16 year old girl online on an adult dating app. We really hit it off, and we began conversing for a series of months. We both researched the age of consent in her state, and found that it was 16. I drove to meet her, and we had a date. Things got intense later, and we ended up having sex. It ended up only being a weekend fling because she didn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with me. I was heartbroken. We had a dispute weeks later, and she never wanted to speak to me again.

7 months later while at my college dorm, I made an idiotic decision to drive back to her state to apologize and win her heart again. I was met at the door by her father, who was unhappy to see me to say the least. I shook his hand and agreed to cut complete contact. As I went back to my hotel, the police knocked on my door and arrested me. Fast forwarding, I was sentenced to 3 years supervised probation. The collateral damages were just as bad if not worse, as I lost my EMT license and my career.

The reason why I bring this up is because if this were to happen to someone who was elite, had money, or had high influential status, they would have likely just received a slap on the wrist or not have been touched at all by the law.

Instead, an average everyday person, let alone a young 20/21 year old trying to pursue love at that time, had his entire reputation and livelihood destroyed.

These elitist bastards flew 14 year old girls on an island, passed them around as casual sex dolls, and they get away with it completely unscathed. It's sick.

Now that I am 31 and married, I look back in hindsight with regret and sadness I became so desperate. I was young and dumb. But I am even more angry at the devastation it caused for so many years when, meanwhile, elitists just continue to thrive and get away with high-profile crimes.

I have a genetic condition which shortens my lifespan. Males with my condition burn in the 90s are expected to live 37-45 years. While currently, my health is actually 10% above normal, the clock is ticking as I'm already 26. I feel like it's selfish for me to want a wife and kids when I know I won't be around for the foreseeable future, even if I found someone now. I'd be proceeding, knowing she and the child won't have me around for long, which I consider selfish of me. But I can't help but wonder if maybe a woman can fully understand and accept this. I currently doubt it, since we always think things will be okay, even when they really aren't. Is my desire for love misplaced selfishness?