Girls, How many dates before you expect them to make a move?

[Anonymous]

Im a transwoman who has been asked out by a lesbian leaning bi woman who works for a 3rd part where I work (big place, no conflicts). We've gone out on what may have been dates in the past (3) before she found a boyfriend who she is no longer with. Now she's asked me out, and its definitely a date.

While I enjoy kissing and sex just fine, I was raised to respect people and I put a lot of emphasis on consent, that never changes, but there's an age gap, she's 22 and im 30... even in my own age group I am awkward here and er on the side of caution, which leads to people thinking im not interested.

To those in the 20-25 age group, if you like someone and have spent time with them in the past, within what amount of time do you expect them to go for a kiss? More?

Obviously every situation is different, but i really dont want her to think im uninterested because I am, quite so, I just dont want her to think im just wanting in her pants either.

[petitedollbabee]

It really depends on how good our chemistry is. If on the first date we’re getting along as if we’ve known each other for years, then I’d be happy for them to make a move on the first date, or the 2nd date. But if we’re both a little shy/timid and our dates are progressing slowly, then I’d be happy waiting until the 4th or 5th date before a move is made.

[Asker]

Ty for your response

[Nikki1989]

First date, hopefully. My capacity for patience is limited.

[Asker]

See, im the same way, but as we get older I think we lose that capacity for patience when it comes to dating, when you look around and decide you're done with being single anf times kind of running out... but when we are young, we have all of the time in the world.