How many dates until you start fooling around?

[Anonymous]

as question asks: how many dates until you start fooling around?

[PaigeMarie]

From a femalew perspective I think after a month or so, why give them things before you truly know how they would take care of them, to anoymous user boy answer down there: We are usually afraid of getting hurt hense all the horror stories we hear of douche bag who "hit it and quit it" or own expireneces I'm not saying every guy is like that but I think a month of dates would be good (so one date a week would be at least 4 dates) hop I helped!

[Asker]

i think the anonymous use is an ass, you're right , I think a month is good...!

[PaigeMarie]

Haha well thank you! Sometimes it is nice to feel like I know what I am talking about! Glad I could be of help!

[Anonymous]

Making out by the third. No going under the underwear until we are official.

[Asker]

do you mean sex by no going under the underwear and how long does it take people to be official usually?

[Opinion Owner]

No fingering or hand jobs or oral sex or regular sex. Official depends how long I would think within a few weeks of dating.

[Asker]

oh OK, thank you !

[Anonymous]

I am on like my 7th date and still haven't kissed her. Here is the situation, we only go out to eat because she says that all she has time for. So when we finish I drive her home and she says she had a fun time then runs inside her house before I can turn the car off and even walk her to her door.

[AdamThomas]

I bet you pay for the dinners too, right? It sounds like she's just using you for free meals, leave her alone, move on and find a girl who actually likes you and who isn't going to play games.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah actually I am. I figured as much she also telling me she wants expensive shit for a Christmas present and it is starting to really anger me.

[Asker]

how old are you guys? and how frequently do you go out? give her the benefit of a doubt and try to do something different may be bowling, for a walk in the city, or some fun activity , may be she's trying to get to know you, and may be she's thinking that you have nt kissed her yet... if it does not work out then she's using you, dump her...

[Opinion Owner]

24 and 22. Only once a week. I have offered bowling and going to a park and she always tells me she only has a limited time we can spend together because she is busy the rest of the day.

[Asker]

Ok I think that's weird...she's probably taking advantage of you, because if she has time to go out for dinner, bowling would take the same amount of time...it does not make any sense...!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah and she wants me to buy her a bunch of fancy things for Christmas to

[deWho]

40 + hours. You need to practice the art of conversation first.

[Anonymous]

1 or 2. Any longer and I can't be arsed - in my experience if it takes any longer they're usually teasing/stringing me along.

[Asker]

how old are you?

[Opinion Owner]

22

[Opinion Owner]

As for the comment below about me being an ass, let me explain further. Men are just as afraid of getting hurt and used as you are. I agree entirely with the guy who commented above, there are a lot of girls who will string guys along for all sorts of reasons. I used to wait for as long as the girls said they wanted to - any time it went longer than 3 dates without sex, they would f*** someone else. Your defense mechanism is to make a guy wait - mine is not to wait too long. I'm not an ass.

[Asker]

well it depends what you're looking for, the girls who would f*** someone else after 3 dates are probably only looking for sex...you really want to be with someone who wants the same thing you want...if you're looking for sex, then have sex on the first date, if that's what the girl want then you found your person, she won't care and I won't care... let me ask you this, what do think about the anonymous user below: "no going under the underwear until we are official."

[Opinion Owner]

That doesn't make it any less frustrating to be asked to wait, to start to like a girl then have her do that. I don't mean just sex either... Me and my girl had sex on the second date, we've been together for almost 9 months so far. Like I said, in my experience if a girl actually likes me either for sex or a relationship they don't make me wait - the ones who have done have almost alwaya been playing silly games with me and have almost always left for another guy.