After how many dates do you start being in a relationship on average?

[blunty]

I'm just curious about your experiences cause I feel like each time I have a flirt, we just skip the dating part and go into a relationship, and it doesn't last too much :(

[mojito]

Ah, the old "when are we officially in a relationship" question! It's like trying to figure out how many licks it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop – everyone's got a different answer.

Some folks might feel ready to DTR (Define The Relationship) after just a few dates if the chemistry is off the charts. Others might take it slow and need more time, like several weeks or even months, to decide if they're ready for that relationship label.

What really matters is the connection and comfort level between the two people. You know, that moment when you're both like, "Yeah, this feels right." Sometimes it happens after three dates, sometimes it's more like ten.

If you're wondering where things are going, it's totally okay to bring it up in a casual, no-pressure kind of way. It's better to know than to be stuck in that "what are we" limbo.

​ So, while there's no magic number, just keep an eye on how things are progressing and talk about it when it feels right. Remember, every couple's journey is unique! 🚀🌟

[DizzyDesii]

My situations are a bit different. When we’re just getting to know eachother for the first month or two, we may also be getting to know others. But by the 2nd or 3rd month we agree to solely focus on one another. Exclusivity doesn't equal official boyfriend/girlfriend though. Just depends on where we stand around of after the 3rd month. Official relationship status has to eventually be agreed upon because sex wouldn't happen before then and not even in less than 6 months

[AmandaYVR]

Lots of people are having sex but don't consider it 'a relationship'. Especially nowadays, with terms being created like friends with benefits (who are not even really friends you can rely on when the going gets tough), and fuckbuddies, and 'situationships'.

I think it's better to never assume. One person has to ask the other. "Will you be my girlfriend?" was one of the sweetest questions I've ever been asked. Nice and clear. (And of course I said yes.)

[BadApple69]

What is a relationship? I am sure everyone has a different definition. To me if you are dating that is a relationship…. Maybe a sexless one but still a relationship. Now you start having sex… is that a relationship? A girl I know thinks sex is no big deal and that’s not a relationship.
To me, you date for 3,4 or 5 times at this point if all is going well for you both than maybe sex becomes part of it… that’s when it becomes more a relationship and less “just dating”.

[DannyUk2017]

Yeah! Sadly these days they start to Rush through the Dating/Relationships so fast... That's why they Finish fast too... is not that Curiousity/Enigma about the person anymore.
Today goes something like...
I seen you, i want you, i shagged you, we get dressed and Go Home. Which sounds just like friends with benefits, fb, ons, nsa, etc...🤦‍♂️

[HaleyCatgirl]

It more or less seems like you're meeting people online who you have no clue about and dating them instead of trying to become friends with people and then dating them through that that's how I did it and it's worked perfectly we're happy and we just chill and play games

[godfatherfan]

I only date one woman at a time. So, for me, I am only going to date that woman until one of us decides we won't be dating any longer. I guess you could say I am in a relationship from that first date. Sometimes I leave that first date knowing there won't be a second, sometimes not.

[BoobMan]

It depends on what you mean by relationship. I'd take that to mean we actually have an exclusivity conversation (the DTR or define the relationship convo). That's probably somewhere like 2-3 months in on average I think. But the point where we're not seeing anyone else usually happens before then anyway, so it's more a formality, although an important one.

[mandyfire98]

With my current boyfriend we dated for around a month before we were official. About 4 or 5 dates. Pkenty if talking abd texting in between. Maybe a few non date hangouts also lol.

[Tim2nice]

I don’t follow stages. Life’s too short for that. If the woman I’m dating is attractive enough for me and on the wavelength intellectually and we find that we have lots of things in common then it could happen really quickly

[exitseven]

I think it was more an attitude than something that was defined. If I felt like this girl would want to come with me to the beach or to a concert or just to hang out and watch TV and do it on a regular basis we are in a relationship

[Joshydavid25]

I personally haven't been on many dates.. But the few I've been on, we start acting relationship like pretty fast.. They say by 7 dates, it should be a good indicator of the relationship starting nice and securely..

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've had dates last three days, so depends on the date. Probably once we hit the 60-hours-together waypoint.

[ArrowheadSW]

Not sure it is the number of dates, or the time dating. Usually I'd say a month or two for me.

[serious]

Neither I have been in dates and nor have I been in a relationship. I have always been single.

[Altheavas]

It’s hard to put a time frame on it. It’s an attitude, I personally don’t like being rush to anything.

[couchweed92]

meet somehow, flirt, hookup, pillow talk, discover that you actually like this person, keep hanging out and hooking up. eventually decide to be boyfriend and girlfriend

[virtue2332]

It's a relationship from the second you agree to not go on dates with anyone else.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

It shouldn't have to be so formal as to ask a person, "will you be mine?" If you both value your time together and put in effort then you are in a relationship.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Dating is being in a relationship.
Before that its friends, and friends don't go on dates.

[Fuentes]

I thought both people agreed? Lol