How many dates before deciding to be together or not?

[Lilas]

I know it's different for everyone, and that more dates isn't a promise of success nor that less mean failure but what is a safe amount of dates to not rush into anything and what type of dates will be the most helpful to truly get to know someone in everyway!

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I went on 3 dates before making it official and exclusive with my boyfriend. We already had the intentions to be exclusive from the very beginning, we didn’t want to waste each others times.


Our first date was at a cafe and at a museum/park in our town. We first met up at the cafe, talked a bit. Then we decided to go to the park/museum and walk around and talk even more. It was a great way to get to know him and open up even more. The cafe really made it hard for us to talk and be able to laugh and be loud, so the park/museum was a great idea. It gives us more freedom to be ourselves.

[Mofunfour20]

It's up to him to decide. You can't protect him from danger. Just be the woman he wants to protect, that's the best you can do. Men decide what women get a relationship, women decide what man gets sex. You can't control his decision, just show him you're worth his time and effort

[LaNc3L0TT]

Lets say we communicate on daily basic and everything else is working fine "we are perfect match", maybe 2 dates. So I guess 1-2 weeks tops, hate to waste time :p

[AndrésC64]

What do you mean by "be together"? Are you talking about being exclusive or planning to get married? I really couldn't say for how long you should wait before being exclusive. It would depend on the dates and how well they went. I would say as far as a marriage goes, that you should be together at least a year and preferably living together. That's really the only way to truly get to know someone.

[chulo1992]

My last girlfriend and I... MANY YEARS AGO, met online. We didn't meet til months later which was on a Friday night. We were together again the next night. That was an entire weekend. By Sunday... it was official.

[noohair]

You are trying to quantify human bonding.
I don't think you should do that.

[Lilas]

It's a simple question for advice/guidelines; It's not like there is a magic formule for relationships.

Which part sounded like "quantifing" to you?

[noohair]

How many dates, is asking for a number.

[Lilas]

Once again just à guideline.

Plus I already said the amont doesn't guranty anything!

But to decide a commitment just after one date would be a rush into things!

Sometimes you see someone and you already know they're the one; but you take it slowly fir both parties to be certain and actually got to know and accept each others...

I understand and agree with what you said but that's not what I tried to say.

[noohair]

Sounds like you answered your own question.

[jahaims]

That would depend on how good you both are at communicating

[Shamalien]

Absolute fking minimum 3

[Kurdistan1991]

I don't do this kind of thing before I'm married.