How long should you date before marriage?

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How long is the time the average person thinks of before deciding to go from the dating stage of a relationship to marriage. Obviously this number will be different for most and can change depending. But just a rough answer. I've personally thought 9 months is a good time maybe too tell. But I could be so far off from others

jorfan3 · Accepted Answer

They say infatuation lasts approximately 18 months. So, if you want to start seeing flaws and the reality of your partner, 18 months or longer is the way to go.

Earlier than that, you're still misty-eyed and can't clearly perceive your partner. You still perceive them as your total fulfillment, and that isn't a long-lasting experience. That feeling will fade as the relationship progresses. Healthy relationships HELP fulfill one another; they aren't the TOTAL fulfillment. Friends, family, and aspirations are necessary too. You tend to forget about that stuff while you're infatuated.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I've seen some people get married after only 6 months of dating and they've been together many decades. It really just depends. I've seen some couples become engaged after two to three years, and then get divorced one or two years after that. I think the longer you get to know the person yeah, the better it can work, but it is still a risk.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No set time.

you could date 3 years++ only to break it off. And now you wasted years of your life your never getting back…….

I know others that date eachother 1 year get married the next year. And. It lasts forever.

I think the longer you wait. The worse off you are.

I knew my wife was the one In 8 months.
it’s not rocket science.

I get a very good grasp who someone is. In 3 months. If I wanna do this or not……. I won’t waste my time if I don’t

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

There is not a single rule that applies to everyone. If you are in college, you should wait until after college. If you are a 34 year old woman and you want to have children, you hear the clock ticking and you will probably get married sooner.

As a general rule, You should date someone at least until you have had a few disagreements with them, That is when they let their guard down and show you how they really feel.

Anastacia1989 · Answer

Minimum of 2-3 years no rush because you have to really get to know a person and be totally sure before jumping into a life long commitment and gotta be financially secure as well or else big problems…. also don’t let anybody pressure you into being engaged or married before you’re ready

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

For those in the working world, I think 1-2 years is a right amount of time to make the decision, talk through any "difficulties" that each side might bring into a marriage and work through it.

I think logistically 2-4 years is reasonable time to walk down the aisle, considering the engagement process can take 3-6 months and some venues book out a year in advance.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Ideally, 2 years minimum. But I’d accept a proposal in 6 months and marry in a year if i was crazy about them

brightpapaya · Answer

I feel like I'm a bit crazy but I wouldn't consider marriage before at least living with the person for 2+ years. If you haven't lived with them, how can you be sure that they're right for you forever?

Anonymous · Answer

6-12 months at most, 2 years is too long. I mean even slightly less then a year, a relationship shouldn't just be based on lust. Find out their political views, if they want kids, see what makes them tick (not by testing them, talking to them), communicate, do you have a similar vision 20-30 years from now, what do you want to be doing after retirement. This may seem extreme for some but I believe they are important. I've dated girls where the priority is giving kids expensive clothes and best of the best. Although, I do agree to give kids the most you can but I dont want to spoil them.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I would say you should be in a regular relationship for 1-2 years to be able to say you know another person good enough to say your vows.

theothersider · Answer

Probably not until you are comfortable pooping in the same house as your prospective life mate... I know many a woman.( this seems to affect women more) who will claim they love a man... but still run to McDonald's to take a poop. If you can't get over that hurdle then you might want to wait.

Bill746644 · Answer

Why would a man get married these days? It's a losing proposition. 50-60% of all marriages end in divorce, 1/3 of the relationships that remain are unhappy, another 1/3 just goes through the meh motions. That leaves around 12-15% chance of finding something long lasting. Seriously, the probability of winning at blackjack is 42.22% as comparison. Majority of relationships last 2.9 years. Run with that, enjoy that time together and when it falls apart at that stage be thankful for not getting married and that you can both part ways amicably.

Quigly · Answer

If it takes longer than 2 years there is something very wrong in the relationship. In fact, after a year you should be able to see whether or not the relationship is serious to continue or walk away. If a person can't make decisions, someone else can.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Most people don't marry until they've been several years with each other. Give it maybe 5+ years at best I'd say. This is just from what I've seen with my sisters & their men. And yes, I'm the youngest sister out of all of them.

HighValue · Answer

It doesn't matter how long you date someone. You don't really know them or how compatible/incompatible you really are until you live with them. I would suggest living together for a year first.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Whatever works for the couple. We waited 2 years because we wanted to move to another country first.

OtterMan68 · Answer

I wonder if a sociologists has ever done a study on the relationship between length of courtship and the success of the marriage.

worldscolide · Answer

What ever you're comfortable with. It's different for every couple. In my case it was 2 years of dating before I married my wife. For others it could be shorter, and for others still it may be longer. There isn't one good length of time.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Hypothetically, 3 to 5 years seems in the right area. 2 - 3 years to get engaged and then another 1 to 2 years to get married.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I would say 2 or 3 years. Since at that stage you know if you wanna stay with them for the rest of your life or not lol.

Xia1994 · Answer

there shouldn't be a set timeframe because everyone's timing is different.

getwiththepg · Answer

Several years to really vet this woman, and even after once they settle into the marriage the real them could come out so I don’t know. Whatever you do, don’t bind yourself in legally on paper.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Do you mean from dating to engaged or actually married?

HoraceB · Answer

My wife & I dated for a year & 3 months, & we've been married for 14 years.

Becky316 · Answer

Me and my husband dated for 7 years, we broke for college but rekindled and eventually married.

CozyCoffin · Answer

I'd ask her six months in what her feelings are on that and start planning for it based on how I feel.

JayBones · Answer

When you know, you know. I knew in 6 months. Been married 20 years and the only thing I knew then was nothing...

SolitarySolace · Answer

Don’t get married. Ibe had multiple male customers at work tell me never to get married. Most men wouldn’t take their advice until they’re married and become the same man who will tell the next generation of men never to get married.

tiajoka · Answer

Honestly anything over a year without even an engagement is silly

AmeerX · Answer

3-6 months is ample time if marriage is the goal. If you wait longer than that you are just wasting time. Guess what time is not a luxury you will have. For both men and women looking for someone serious in life

admles · Answer

2 years before getting engaged, and at least another year before marriage. So, minimum of three years. Don't rush into it.

jshm2 · Answer

It's about circumstances, not time. There are dimwits who are still dating after 4 years, and there are people who meet and marry.

Mangospacho · Answer

360 days, the exact length of a lunar year.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No wonder dating is trash  you all are just wasting each others time

jadeXcatastro62 · Answer

It’s best to get to know that person for a little longer. Don’t wanna wind up with a creep or creepy family.👍

MikeTheBartender · Answer

1-2 years? You know how many t shirts I loved and was disgusted that I bought it 1-2 years later? 3 or more.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Doesn't matter. When you find the right one, it will just work.

Wiredone · Answer

That depends on when you both think you are ready for marriage. There is no certain time limit

electromagnetic · Answer

However long until I feel right

whistlingwh0res · Answer

well have sex in 3 dates and engaged in 2 years and then have a baby in a year and then star fool around next 2 years, and then children start to have sex at 12 and so on

Anonymous · Answer

Don't date. Marry immediately. Dating is worst

Simslover92 · Answer

2 years max.

imawfulatusernames · Answer

At least two years but not longer than 4

JustinTheGreat · Answer

2 or 3 years

exitseven · Answer

1-2 years.

jahaims · Answer

No set time

Awomanof · Answer

1/2 years

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